Ubuntu Group in Orange County, February 2013


We are rhythm-bound organisms.
 – Bruce Perry

Hi everyone,

I’ve always liked that quote.  It is simple and succinct, yet a profound and apt descriptor of the very essence of our lives.

When our body grows tense, when stress consumes us, we tighten up and lose the ability to feel our own inner and bodily rhythm.  When we are able to feel it, it becomes the basis for being in rhythm with another; we resonate.  This mind-body resonance from one to another enables empathy and supports compassion.  Keeping our body soft and open enough to feel our own inner sensations is the key to feeling connected to one another.  Being in a grounded state supports us as we feel not only our shared connection, but the connection to the earth below our feet.

Last weekend, eight of us were at the Living Ubuntu 2013 Winter Retreat in Julian.  With grounding exercises each morning and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) before bed each night, it gets easier to feel, and feel deeply.  The harder part is to keep it going upon returning home.

The Ubuntu group is only once a month, but our group TRE practice with shared vibratory experiences provides an important part of honoring the fact that we are rhythm-bound organisms.

I hope you will be there for the next one.

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

Warmly,

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

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Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, February 15 2013
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.

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Ubuntu Group in Orange County, January 2013

Man carries his fiercest enemy within himself.
– Elie Wiesel

Hi everyone,

More times than I can count, I seem to be the one who gets in my own way more than anyone else.   This is most evident when my practice of TRE has gotten sidelined.  When I am consistent in dropping down into my body and releasing what has been unhelpfully held there, rhythmic flow gets restored.

How has your TRE practice been?  Did the Holiday Season remind you of the benefits of release and restoration, and rest? Or….?

We will be getting together for the first Ubuntu group of the year next week.  Will you be able to join us?

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

Hoping to see you,

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

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Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, January 18 2013
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, December 2012

Giving material goods is one form of generosity, but one can extend an attitude of generosity into all one’s behavior.  Being kind, attentive, and honest in dealing with others, offering praise where it is due, giving comfort and advice where they are needed, and simply sharing one’s time with someone – all these are forms of generosity, and they do not require any particular level of material wealth.

– His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Hi everyone,

I saw the above quote on Suzanne’s Facebook page this morning (thanks, Suzanne!).  It suits much of my thoughts about the holiday shopping frenzy that seems to take hold of so many at this time of year.  For me, I find the over-focus of the materialistic aspects of the season quite agonizing.  There are so many others ways to be generous with one another that come from the heart, don’t require money in the bank, and are infinitely less damaging to this earth we live on.

When we keep our stress low, we can feel more.  When we feel more, we can resonate more with each other.  In the deepening of our connections with one another, more of our genuine needs can be met.  And in that way of living, perhaps some of the compulsion to acquire more stuff might not take hold in the same way.

Often the December group is the smallest of the year, so I thought I would send this out earlier than usual in the hope you will make sure to put it on your calendar and be able to join us.  For emphasis: I really do very much hope you will join us in December ; )

May we all be embodied enough for our hearts to be attuned to our inner rhythms, the rhythms of one another, and the greater pulsating rhythm of Mother Earth all around us.

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

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Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, December 21 2012
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, November 2012

We are all substantially flawed, wounded, angry, hurt, here on Earth.  But this human condition, so painful to us, and in some ways shameful  –  because we feel we are weak when the reality of ourselves is exposed – is made much more bearable when it is shared, face-to face, in words that have expressive human eyes behind them. 

— Alice Walker

What is that you express in your eyes?
It seems to me more than all the words I have read in my life. 

— Walt Whitman

Hi everyone,

If you’ve been on this list long enough you might notice the occasional re-using of a quote sent previously.   Generally, that means it’s a quote I really like.  The quote by Alice Walker is a prime example of that.  For me I feel it just says so much of what it’s all about.

We are flawed, wounded, and in pain.  When we come together, it makes the pain more bearable.  And when we really connect, really see each other, there is a world of energetic expression and exchange that comes through the eyes.  So often the very thing we long for and the thing we fear most are one in the same:  to really be seen, and embraced as who we are.

The Ubuntu group is this coming Friday.  Hope to “see you” then.  RSVPs are not required, yet, always appreciated : )

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

Most warmly,

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, November 16 2012
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, October 2012

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries.
Without them, humanity cannot survive.

The creatures that inhabit this earth–be they human beings or animals–are here to contribute,
each in its own particular way,
to the beauty and prosperity of the world.
–Dalai Lama XIV

Hi everyone,

Okay, I confess, I read the second quote and immediately thought about the limits of my love, and where my capacity for compassion meets with struggle.  Yes, there is a long list of what I might be referring to, but in this moment, reading that quote, I thought of cockroaches.

I always think of cockroaches as reminder of where my capacity to see beauty in all that exists runs in to trouble.  Lorraine has proved to be one of my heroes in this area of life.  The day she told me the story of saving the life of a cockroach, I applauded her and was quite excited.

In truth, I too would have probably saved the cockroach the same way I seek to save most other insects that cross my path.  Yet, my affectionate heart needs a tune up when it comes to grasping with robust and devoted appreciation their role in contributing beauty and prosperity on this earth.

Chronic stress and unresolved trauma detract from compassion, so I will continue my own path of recovery, and hope for the best.  I would appreciate having your company along the path.

We didn’t meet last month and belated apologies about that.  I hope to see you there this month.

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

Most warmly,

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, October 19 2012
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, September 2012

Wisdom means seeing into the heart of things,
beneath the surface of our contradictions, where there is no good nor bad, neither right nor wrong.
It means seeing the human being as the animal he is, struggling to gain security yet be free, to be productive but also joyful, to seek pleasure but also to know pain, to hope for transcendence and yet be content that one is contained within a finite body.
It is to know that love does not exist without the possibility of hatred.
It is to know that there is a time for living and a time for dying.
It is to know that the individual exists to celebrate life.

– Alexander Lowen

Hi everyone,

I have been grieving a lot lately, for a wide variety of reasons.  Life brings change, and loss is perpetually a part of that.  If you know me at all you will know I am a devoted believer in grieving as the very thing that restores living.

There is indeed “a time for living and a time for dying,” reinforced for me this week by hearing of a colleague’s death.  It was a death one could say was before her time, and that is the irony.  We never get to know in advance how much time we have.

Within the struggle and contradictions, while we are here, in whatever form we choose to express it in, we exist to celebrate life.

The next Ubuntu group is back to the traditional schedule of third Friday of the month.  I hope to see you there.  RSVPs are always appreciated.

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

In the ebb and flow of life,

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, September 21 2012
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, August 2012

When an impulse is consciously held back, the resulting contraction of the muscles is acute.  Waves of excitation still reach the muscles, which are all a-quiver like racehorses raring to go but restrained by their jockeys.  When the tension becomes chronic, however, the muscles become fixed and the holding back of the impulse becomes unconscious.  A fixed, tense muscle makes a spontaneous movement impossible, so that one is no longer aware of anger or any other feeling, not even of the fact that one is holding back feeling.  Sensitivity in the area is deadened, so that one doesn’t feel the tension.  Years later, when the muscle weakens, pain develops, but by this time the individual cannot make a connection between the pain, the tension, and the suppression of feeling.  The chronic tension in the musculature that prevents an impulse from activating the muscle and thus being experienced…

– Alexander Lowen

Hi everyone,

I don’t find the quote above to be the most heart-felt inspirational item I have ever read, but I think it is an important one as it seems to me that it identifies much of the root of some of the challenges we face in life.  Often, we don’t feel very much and mistake that for being “fine” or “okay”.  In reality, an alive body-mind is full of sensations and feelings.  Some of them we enjoy and some of them we don’t.  It is the absence of deep feeling that ought to set of the warning bells more than anything.

Please note:  I am sending this email earlier than usual as we are making a change in our typical Ubuntu group schedule for the month of August.  We will meet one week earlier than usual, on the second Friday of the month, instead of the usual third Friday of the month.  We will return to the third Friday of the month in September and ongoing.

I hope you can be there, on Friday, August 10.

If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )

Sorry for any inconvenience,

Barbara English
http://livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

Ubuntu Group in Orange County, CA

Friday, August 10 2012
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p

Optional:  bring veggie foods to share

We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004).  Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.

[Ubuntu] n.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.