Early registration for Tarra Stariell’s workshop ends this Saturday, Feb 19th

Hi everyone,

If we are going to offer a workshop that seeks to address the way we often lose ourselves in the midst of all the long lists of tasks and obligations (No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me?), we thought the least we could do was send you a friendly reminder that the early discounted registration for Tarra’s workshop on busyness and overwhelm will end this coming Saturday, February 19.

For those of you prone to procrastinating, it ends tomorrow – Friday, February 18.  If we say “Friday”, that will give you one additional day to be late and still make it in before the Saturday deadline.  Just trying to be helpful :)

No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this me (Saturday, Feb 22 2011)

Workshop by Tarra Stariell on busyness and overwhelm is next Saturday, Feb 12th in Costa Mesa, CA.

All kidding aside, we hope you will take advantage of the early registration discount.  If there are any financial concerns, please do get in touch with us. This workshop series is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds. All details are on the website.

In solidarity,

:) Barbara & Anshul
Living Ubuntu
livingubuntu.org

PS:  It took us a while, but we finally have a location for the workshop.  It is going to be held at the National University Campus in Costa Mesa.  The address is on the website.


::: UPCOMING EVENTS IN FEBRUARY & BEYOND :::

Sunday February 20,  Living Ubuntu Winter Body Group: Relating to Global Issues
2:30-5:00p.  Newport Beach, CA
Meeting every other Sunday afternoon to ground, stretch, breathe and learn how to maintain our own wellbeing in the face of global issues that upset us.  For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events.

Tuesday February 22,  An Evening with Myra Dahgaypaw about Burma
6:30p.  Irvine, CA
Myra Dahgaypaw currently is a Campaign Coordination for US Campaign for Burma and a 2010 Genocide Intervention Network Carl Wilkens Fellow.  This is a casual dinner get-together in Irvine.  If you’d like to attend, please contact Barbara English at info@livingubuntu.org or (949) 891-2005.

Saturday February 26,  No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me?
9:30a-1:00p.  Costa Mesa, CA.
Why is it so hard to keep up?  Where is the time for me? Why do I feel so lost in my own life?  Join us for a workshop about our overwhelmed lives and how to find our way back to a healthy balance.  Presented by Tarra Stariell.  Visit http://livingubuntu.org/events for more information or call (949) 891-2005.

Tuesday March 1,  Orange County for Darfur Planning Meeting
6:30p-8:00p.  Newport Beach, CA.
Darfur, a region in Sudan has been embroiled in a deadly conflict for over seven years now.  At least 400,000 people have been killed; more than 2.5 million innocent civilians have been displaced.  This is our campaign to raise awareness and help end the genocide in Darfur.  For more information, visit ocfordarfur.org or call (949) 891-2005.

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Are we too busy to be compassionate?

Hi everyone,

I recall a study on altruism that I read awhile ago.  It involved a bunch of seminary students.  They were divided into two groups and both were given instructions to go to another location.  One group was told they were late and needed to rush, the other group was not told that.  A person in distress was planted in their path as part of the experiment.  Can you guess which group was more apt to help the person in need? It wasn’t those who thought they were running late… (see “The Good Samaritan Study”).

I am concerned about many of the recent trends in our society, especially, the short and long term consequences of the gadget-ridden, multi-tasking, over-scheduled pace that has become the new norm.  We are all in a hurry, all of the time, and it is accepted like that is just the way it is.

What price do we pay in lost ability to respond compassionately when someone is genuinely in need of help? And what are we losing in self-awareness, close relationships, and the ability to think novel, creative thoughts?

The psychotherapist in me suspects there are deeper issues going on.  In our quest to evade the distress within, we stay distracted.  Yet the cumulative stress of chronic busy-ness in and of itself can create the same states in our bodies as actual traumatic experiences, thereby increasing distress.  It is a no-win cycle.

Our good friend Tarra Stariell will be in Orange County on Saturday, February 26 to present No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? Tarra is a psychotherapist in private practise with over 16 years of experience.  She specializes in working with trauma, auto-immune and dissociative disorders and we are delighted to have her present on this timely topic.  This workshop is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds.  Please see our website for all details.

Warmly,

Barbara English
Living Ubuntu
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PS:  I hope to see you tomorrow (Saturday, Feb 12th) evening at the screening of On Our Watch, a powerful documentary about the ongoing genocide in Darfur.

PPS:  The irony of marketing two events in one post is not lost on me. :)

No time to think, No time to breathe…
Is this me?
by
Tarra Stariell

 No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this me?

presented by

Living Ubuntu
Southern California Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis

Saturday, February 26 2011
9:30a – 1:00p

Orange County, CA

Why is it so hard to keep up?  Where is the time for me?  Why do I feel so lost in my own life?

Join us for a workshop about our overwhelmed lives and how to find our way back to a healthy balance.
This is a not-for-profit event.  No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Advance registration is required. Please visit http://livingubuntu.org/events for more information.

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No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me?

“There is more to life than simply increasing it’s speed.”
– Gandhi

Hi everyone,

Let’s try something…  Take a deep breath.  How does it feel?  Do you feel your belly move?  Or was the movement higher, up in your chest and shoulders? Does it feel tight, effort-ful and constricted?  Or open, easy and rhythmic?

Most of us in our society tend to have pretty shallow breathing.  Unlike the free, open breath of a newborn baby, most people do the bare-minimum breathing.  Yes, it’s enough to keep us going, but how many of us can say that we feel “full of life”?  Shallow breathing blocks access to deep feelings.  We spend our days just trying to keep up with the million things-to-do, there is little time left to slow down, breathe and reflect.  And for many of us, after so much time spent “on the go”, when we do stop and try to take a deep, calming breath, we can’t even do it. Is it any wonder that sometimes life feel like a blur?

We’ve been noticing this hectic pace in our own lives as well.  Simply arranging a dinner or trying to have a phone call requires so much back-and-forth effort.  Why is everyone so busy?  What is underneath all this frenzied-ness?  At a pure body level, this is what chronic stress looks like. No wonder there are so many blank eyes, tight shoulders, and painful lower backs.  All this focus on “doing”, keeps us out of our feelings and our bodies pay the price. We have forgotten how to let down, even when we want to.

We wanted to tackle this issue of chronic busyness and overwhelm head on.  On Saturday, February 26th, our good friend Tarra Stariell will present No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? Tarra is a therapist in private practice with over 16 years of experience and specializes in working with trauma and dissociative disorders.  We are really glad she is willing to offer her help with this ultra-common struggle here in Orange County.  All details are on the website.

We hope you will join us.

Barbara & Anshul
Living Ubuntu
livingubuntu.org
| blog | facebook

No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me?
by
Tarra Stariell

 No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this me?

presented by

Living Ubuntu
Southern California Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis

Saturday, February 26 2011
9:30a – 1:00p

Orange County, CA

Why is it so hard to keep up?  Where is the time for me?  Why do I feel so lost in my own life?

Join us for a workshop about our overwhelmed lives and how to find our way back to a healthy balance.
This is a not-for-profit event.  No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Advance registration is required. Please visit http://livingubuntu.org/events for more information.

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Feedback from Tarra’s workshop and event about Burma in July

Hi everyone,

Workshop by Tarra Stariell (Saturday, June 5th)

Workshop by Tarra Stariell (Saturday, June 5th). Click to read feedback from participants.

I can’t believe it’s already been two weeks since, No Time to Think, No Time to Breathe… Is This Me?. Tarra gave a great presentation, and thinking, breathing and being restored into one’s own sense of self were not in short supply that day :) Click here to read some of the feedback from participants.

Our Orange County for Darfur campaign has recently expanded its focus to include additional regions where mass atrocities are occurring, including Congo and Burma. It can be challenging to understand the complexities of ethnically based violence in any country. In Burma, a country that does not allow journalists on the ground, information often gets out only through the underground courage of those who put their lives at risk to tell the story.

We are very excited and grateful to have partnered with University Synagogue (and others) to present Understanding Burma: An Evening with Tim Aye Hardy on Thursday, July 1st.

Tim was born and raised in Burma, and was a student organizer of the protests in 1988. His participation in this left him needing to flee the country because his life was endangered. I had the privilege of meeting and getting to know Tim through the Genocide Intervention Network Carl Wilkens Fellowship.

We will be screening the Academy Award nominated documentary Burma VJ, and having a conversation with Tim after the film. It is a rare opportunity to get him out here to Orange County from his current home in New York. We look forward to hearing his firsthand account of life in Burma and really hope you will join us for this event.

Warmly,

Barbara Engilsh
Living Ubuntu
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Understanding Burma:
An Evening with Tim Aye Hardy

Understanding Burma: An Evening With Tim Aye Hardy

“In June 1988, six military intelligence agents knocked on my door in Rangoon in the middle of the night. They had come to arrest me for speaking out against the regime during the student uprising that came to be known as the ‘8888 Uprising’ . . . I was one of the lucky few. Up to 6,000 innocent protesters were gunned down, and many more were imprisoned or mysteriously disappeared in the night. I lost many colleagues and close friends.”
– Tim Aye Hardy

Thursday, July 1st 2010
7:00p

University Synagogue
3400 Michelson Dr.
Irvine, CA 92612

Cost:
Free

What is going on in Burma? How is a military machine of 500,000 soldiers able to deny a country of 50 million it’s most basic rights? Why has Aung San Suu Kyi, a Nobel Peace Price Laureate been under house arrest for over 14 years?

Join us for a screening of Burma VJ and a conversation with Tim Aye Hardy.

Visit http://livingubuntu.org/events for more information. Please RSVP on the website.

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Feedback from Tarra Stariell’s workshop on stress, overwhelm and dissociation

No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this Me?

Workshop by Tarra Stariell (Saturday, June 5th). Click to see pictures from the event.

Last month, Tarra Stariell presented — No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this Me?,  a workshop on the chronic stress and overwhelm so many of us face in the world today.

Below is some of the feedback from participants.

I am so appreciative to have received the information and experience that was offered today.  I understand more, look forward to reviewing what I received at home and with my therapist.  Thanks for this piece of my healing journey.
–  Megan

Interesting + informative.  I can use these exercises to relieve stress – actually take them and use them.  Tarra, great presentation!
–  Chrys

Very well done.  Great pace!
–  Diana

I appreciated the spontaneity and teaching off of the list.  The info was great, but reading directly from the ppt instead of a lecture was a bit boring.
–  Anonymous

Loved it!!!  Was thankful for the ending exercises and getting grounded.

Great job!  I loved this seminar! I am very thankful we didn’t spend 20 minutes a person doing the dyad. Whew! For a three hour seminar that would have been way too long. Thank you for standing up and reminding Tarra of the time. I loved the venue, the room was comfortable and all inclusive. The staff from Living Ubuntu and SCIBA were very open and approachable. Very thankful for the granola bars at break. Overall this was a great experience. I can’t wait for the next seminar!! Bummed I missed the first two in the series. And … everything happens for a reason. See you in October.
–  Karen

Well prepared, succinct and to the point of managing healthfully life’s stressful events, joyful ones too.  Really enjoyed the experiential exercises.
–  Dorothy

Great service to the community; liked learning about Ubuntu & SCIBA.  Great experiential exercises and good group of participants.  Could have been longer & parking was a problem.
–  Anonymous

Great event.  It seemed different that what was advertised (theme)… Nonetheless, great!
–  Anonymous

Really a great little seminar!  I look forward to attending more like it.  Thank you Tarra, the summary of theoretical background coupled with very applicable techniques = GREAT.
A small binder clip on packet would be helpful as packet was a pinch thick… :)  Oh yes, and box of tissues to use as needed.  Some emotions bust loose during dyad experience.
–  Sara

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Living skills for a less stressed and more fulfilled life

Last month Tarra Stariell, presented No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? Here are some reminders that she shared with attendees after the workshop.

Enjoy,

:) Anshul

Living skills for a less stressed and more fulfilled life

by Tarra Stariell


SLOW DOWN

Breathe deeply in and out, when you recognize that you are stressing. Breathe in as many counts as breathe out.

FOCUS & ORIENT
Take a moment to take in your surroundings—do the orienting exercise; find your feet, do your toe/finger curlings, get back in touch with your body and the present moment.

HONOR YOUR BODY’S NEEDS
Instead of pushing your body to accomplish your goals, become aware of its subtle messages, and then follow them.  Use your attention to “Mind the Body.”

MOVE YOUR BODY
Stretch or engage in some form of physical activity; movement is organizing

START YOUR DAY GENTLY
When you wake up in the morning, don’t get out of bed immediately.  Take time for contemplation, remembering your dreams, prayer, setting your intention for the day.

FOLLOW YOUR BLISS
Find a way to feel fulfilled in your work, free time and in your relationships.  Judging less and loving/accepting more is a way to increase joy and happiness.  Attitude of gratitude.

STAY CONNECTED IN RELATIONSHIP
Heal your wounded relationships whenever possible, let go of toxic people and bless them on their journey.  Spend time with those you love and learn to accept your differences.  Friends/family can mitigate the effects of stress and increase our resiliency.

CREATE BALANCE
We are multi-dimensional beings, needing physical, mental, social, sexual and spiritual contact and expression.  We also have purpose and a need to earn money, seek to have your “vocation your avocation.” (David Whyte)

Play *  Laugh *  Move *  Dance *  Recreate *  Connect *  Be Intimate *  Cry when You Need to *  Risk Feeling *   Live Comfortably in Your Skin *  Sing *  Allow Your Feelings  *  Get Support when You Need It  *  Stay Connected in Your Body *  Life is a Gift when You’re Present to Enjoy It

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Tarra Judson Stariell, MFT, CBT · Mfc 37920 · 760-294-2150
327 South Ivy Street, Escondido, 92025 · 333 Olive Street, San Diego, 92103
TheCenterForSelfDiscovery.com

Why is saying “I can’t” so difficult?

“Unfortunately, most people do not stop to feel their tiredness. Faced with the pressures of life, they believe that it is a matter of survival to go on as they have been. Feeling tired raises a deep fear that they may not be able to continue the struggle. Many find it difficult to say, ‘I can’t.’ As children, they were taught that where there’s a will, there’s a way. To say, ‘I can’t,’ is to admit failure, which is seen as evidence that they are unworthy of love.”

– Alexander Lowen

Hi everyone,

No time to think, No time to Breathe... Is this Me? (Saturday, June 5th)

Workshop by Tarra Stariell on busyness and overwhelm on Saturday, June 5th

We still have space available for No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? this coming Saturday, June 5th. I really hope you will join us, and here’s why.

It has become commonplace to joke about our crazy-busy-multi-tasking-non-stop-over-scheduled lives, yet how did we get to this place of taking it so lightly? Are we really willing to collapse into resignation and say, this is just the reality of life in current day society? We accept overwhelm as the new norm?

What is this driven-ness to be super-human, defy all limits, and push beyond our natural reservoir of energy?

We are in trouble when start using our emergency inner resources on a day-to-day basis just to get by. The good news / bad news is we can adapt to ever increasing demands really well, but not without paying the horribly destructive price that we stop feeling what we are really doing to ourselves. Eventually we reach exhaustion . . . of course we might not even notice that. Sometimes we just get numb and stop feeling. Despite the exhaustion we just keep going because we don’t feel much of anything anymore. We fail to recognize the self-cruelty in this, and the result of vicarious traumas we have yet to process.

Our bodies were designed to push and stop, run and rest, exert and recuperate, expand and contract. When we stop abiding by the rhythm of life itself, we lose the ability to know our own inner state, think creatively, and grow in consciousness. We also lose the ability to resonate with one another and the greater world around us. We sacrifice our capacity for that which is ultimately human, to relate, bond, connect, empathize, care and love.

None of us deserves this sort of mistreatment. And we will all pay a hefty price if it persists. We need to push the “pause button” and get re-centered. We all need some help with figuring out how to do this.

I hope you will join us this Saturday. If there is any financial hardship, please do let us know. This workshop series is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Barbara Engilsh
Living Ubuntu
livingubuntu.org | blog | facebook