Find people who regulate you well and stay near them (June 2018 events)

Adults remain social animals: they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. …in some important ways people cannot be stable on their own.…
Total self-sufficiency turns out to be a daydream….
Stability means finding people who regulate you well and staying near them.
– Charney et al

Hi everyone,

What are you doing on Saturday, June 16? A bunch of us are taking a day trip to visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton. If you have never been there, it is a wonderful place, so you might want to come with us.

We filled up super fast for the number of spots we reserved on the tour. If you want to come, but did not register on Eventbrite yet, let us know by adding your name to the Eventbrite Wait List. We will do our best to accommodate everyone, but that means, we need you to let us know you want to be there. Do not hesitate, carpool arrangements will be getting finalized at the end of this week. So the time to tell us you want ‘in’ is now (or very soon).

June has many additional interesting things happening, so scroll down for a few more Upcoming Community Events.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING COMMUNITY EVENTS:::

SoCal VegFest: Plant Fest (or on Facebook) — free!
Saturday June 2 & Sunday June 3, 10:00a.m. – 3:00p.m. each day
Irvine

Neighborhood Congregational Church: “World Peace & Justice Weekend – A Two Day Oasis of Compassion
Saturday June 9 & Sunday June 10
Laguna Beach
* Audrey Waight, Art Trey Carlisle & Barbara English will present: “Healing the Disconnect: Caring for the Earth as a Whole” on Saturday afternoon

Living Ubuntu: “Field Trip from Orange County to Visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton
Saturday, June 16, 10:00 a.m. – 6:00p.m.
Acton

Animal Rights National Conference
Thursday June 28 – Sunday July 1
Los Angeles
* Gene Baur, Synthian Sharp & Barbara English will present: “So Give Me An F” on Friday morning

“So Give Me An F” | Trip to Farm Sanctuary June 16, 2018

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Hi everyone,


In July 2015, the OC Register featured an article about Bruno Barba, a Fullerton Joint Union High School student enrolled in FFA (Future Farmers of America) who found a home for his “project” Lola-Pig at Farm Sanctuary.
Bruno resisted the “it’s what we do” conventionality that all of his peers followed, i.e. choosing life for Lola instead of slaughter. While some might consider him to be an upstander or hero, a rare high school student exercising critical thinking in order to make his own “best” or “right” decision, what was his instructor’s response? “We definitely don’t encourage it.”

Reading the article in 2015 was the first time I became aware that we had these programs in the local area. At face value it just seemed like a really bad idea: bad for humans, bad for non-humans, bad for planet earth. How could we possibly be asking children to raise and bond with animals then send them off to slaughter for financial profit? At a time of well-known looming eco-catastrophe globally, why the adherence to such an old-school model, and who is benefiting from keeping it going? Not to mention the animals themselves living in a cleaned up version of factory farming, deemed commodities, and killed at the end of the semester? All for academic credit?

After a conversation with Gene Baur (Co-founder of Farm Sanctuary), I decided to learn more about this type of agricultural curriculum being taught in the public school system. I met with Bruno and his mom, Dulce, as well as others. The more I learned, the more I felt deeply creepy-disturbed, and the more I realized I was not alone in my prior ignorance. These issues desperately needed and still need exposure. In 2016, Living Ubuntu started working with Synthian Sharp and commenced filming. Two years later, we are in the final stages of film editing. We intend to release “So Give Me An F” as a feature length documentary film later this year.

I am very happy to announce that Gene Baur, Synthian Sharp, and I will be discussing “So Give Me An F” (and screening a *new* sneak-peak clip from the film) at the upcoming Animal Rights National Conference in Los Angeles, June 28 – July 1 (early registration ends May 7).
Consider joining us at the conference.

We need your support.
We need to launch a web site for the film, create promotional materials to help get the word out, pay for film festival entrance fees, and distribution costs.

Your financial contribution would be greatly appreciated donate here.

Also, on Saturday, June 16, we will be taking a day trip, car pooling from Orange County, to visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton.
For full event details, please see Eventbrite and sign up there if you want to join us. FYI: space is limited and has been filling up very quickly.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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Finding our way to back to wholeness | Jan 13 (2017) Intro to TRE: Connection, Community & Compassion

boss-fight-free-high-quality-stock-images-photos-photography-pathway-forestJN: So, as a society and as individuals, what is the way back to wholeness?

GM: It’s impossible under capitalism, because the essence of capitalism is to separate the mind from the body. And, basically, people are all considered material goods. People matter only insofar as they produce, consume, or own matter. If you don’t produce, consume, or own matter, then you don’t matter in this society. We have to recognize the severely prohibitive limitations along with the great achievements of this particular way of life. It’s not a matter of providing some utopian prescription.

On a personal level, it’s a matter of deep self-work. One thing we’ve done now is we’ve had a lot of brilliant, necessary research about what trauma is and how it shows up in the form of physical and mental illness and alienation and disconnection from other people and from yourself. And a lot of work has been done on the reversal of trauma and the healing of it—and also on the prevention of it. But, again, we are not applying that knowledge.

– Dr. Gabor Maté
(Read the entire interview: Why Are So Many Adults Today Haunted by Trauma?)

Hi everyone,

What are your thoughts, feelings and reflections as 2017 comes to an end? Despite the innate goodness interwoven with being alive on this earth, I don’t think anyone I know would dispute that this year has been beyond ‘difficult’… in so many ways… and on so many levels.

Aware of the urgencies, from the start of the year, Living Ubuntu jumped in with eagerness to meet as many needs as possible and meaningfully engage on a variety of topics. We collaborated often with others to add diversity to our message and broaden our outreach. We successfully organized, co-organized or participated in more than 20 educational, advocacy-oriented and healing events in 2017. You can find most of our 2017 events here.

Now we are looking ahead to the new year with much excitement. For the past 18 months we have been working on a documentary, “So Give Me An F.” We are very close to finishing our first rough cut of the film so expect to hear more about that very soon. (Yay!)

Meanwhile, since the Introduction to Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises event we hosted in December reached capacity plus wait list we wanted to start the new year by offering it again in January. Once again, like the description of Ubuntu, we seek to ‘share what we have‘.

Intro to TRE®: Connection, Compassion & Community, Saturday, January 13, 6:00pm – 9pm — FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

Your support of our work is essential and greatly appreciated. Please consider a year end one-time contribution or monthly donation to help us continue.
DONATE HERE
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May the New Year bring the wisdom we need to find our way back to wholeness.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community

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We live in extremely challenging times. What is challenging for one affects the whole.
In the spirit of Ubuntu we ‘share what we have’.
Join us for an Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) plus a time to connect, re-connect and re-affirm living life compassionately.

Saturday January 13, 2017, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Irvine Ranch Water District Community Room, 15500 Sand Canyon Avenue, Irvine, CA 92618

FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS
EVENT DETAILS & REGISTRATION

The Irvine Ranch Water District neither supports nor endorses the cause or activities of organizations which use the District’s facilities. The facilities are made available as a public service.

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Interdependence, Ubuntu, and ‘widening our circles of compassion’

V3 Biodiversity“Our task must be to free ourselves … by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
  Albert Einstein

 

Hi everyone,

After organizing or co-organizing 18 public events so far in 2017, Living Ubuntu won’t be quite as ‘public’ this summer. We are taking a bit of time for organizational and personal soul-searching, and working to refine and revitalize our mission, vision, approach and website. Meanwhile, we are continuing to work on “So Give Me An F,” with feature length documentary film release date scheduled for later this year.

For now, as many in the U.S. plan to celebrate Independence Day tomorrow, I offer you a gentle reminder of interdependence and interconnection with a video released way back in 2008 by the Global Oneness Project explaining what “Ubuntu” means.
Watch video here.

Also – check out this great resource from One Green Planet for super-tasty plant-based 4th of July eating.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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Three incredible events this week! April 27, 28 & 29 (2017)

Hi everyone,

We have an amazing week — three events right in a row — starting tomorrow, in Fullerton, then Huntington Beach, then Irvine. All details and links for even more details (and registration) are below. (For ease of reference, all events can be viewed in one place by visiting: livingubuntu.org/events.) I hope you will join us!
 
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“We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end.”
– Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881) English statesman and prime minister

Featuring Special Guest “Conscience of the food movement” Farm Sanctuary’s Gene Baur
CSUF Faculty, Dr. Nicole Jafari
Bruno Barba, Dulce Barba, and Audrey Waight, members of the local Fullerton community, part of the upcoming documentary, “So Give Me An F”

Thursday, April 27, 2017, 6:30pm – 8:30pm
FREE ADMISSION | Register here
California State University Fullerton — Pollack Library, Room: PLN 130
800 N. State College Blvd, Fullerton, California 92831

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“A Sustainable Peace: Equity, Equality, and Environmental Interdependence in the 21st Century”

…examining the relationship between equity and our deeper values…
toward a society that is sustainable, interdependent, and equitable for all…

Friday, April 28, 2017, 8:30am – 5:00pm

 $25* for General Public ($40* at the door)

Free* admission for Coast Community College District Students ($20* at the door)
breakfast and lunch included |
a vegan and zero waste event
Speakers, Event Details, and Registration


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* CLIMATE CHANGE * OVERCONSUMPTION * PLASTIC * OVERFISHING * FACTORY FARMING *

Crises in the Ocean: How Compassionate Action Benefits Us All
Featuring Gene Baur, Jonathan Balcombe and Kate Mackey

Cooking demo by Joni Marie Newman
Booking signing with Gene Baur and Jonathan Balcombe
Compost demo by John Craig
People’s Climate March – Orange County (details)

FREE ADMISSION INCLUDES LUNCH – (registration required)
Event Details and Registration

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In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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“…and they just have no idea” | Speciesism April 20, 2017, plus three more April events

maxresdefault“Intelligent people who are making a good living, who are politically aware…  and they just have no idea.”  – Speciesism

Hi everyone,

If you haven’t yet seen this must-see, deeply philosophical, thought-provoker, here’s your chance. A Screening of Speciesism with filmmaker Mark Devries will be hosted by the Golden West College Peace Studies Program, Thursday, April 20, 6:30pm – 9:30pm. RSVP.

This screening is the pre-conference kick-off event, in advance of the Friday, April 28, 8:30am – 5:00pm 11th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference: “A Sustainable Peace: Equity, Equality, and Environmental Interdependence in the 21st Century”. This year’s intersectional theme is well represented in the broad variety of speakers, a line-up that won’t disappoint. The $25 pre-registration includes vegan breakfast and lunch, plus the full day conference. As in past year, the event is zero waste. PRE-REGISTER.

The day before the GWC conference, we will be out at Cal State Fullerton for the Thursday, April 27, 6:30p – 8:30pm Socially Accepted Practices and Traumatic Impact on Adolescents’ Development.We will have a very interesting conversation that night with special guest Gene Baur, plus Dr. Nicole Jafari, and Fullerton residents, Bruno Barba, Dulce Barba and Audrey Waight, (all featured in our yet to be released documentary, ‘So Give Me An F’). Admission is free. RSVP.

The day after the GWC conference we will be in Irvine for the Saturday, April 29, 9:00am – 4:00pm Crises in the Ocean: How Compassionate Action Benefits Us All, Featuring Gene Baur, Jonathan Balcombe and Kate Mackey, plus a vegan cooking demo by Joni Marie Newman and compost demo by John Craig. This free event includes lunch, so after you see how Joni made the yummy tacos, you will get to eat them. And Gene and Jonathan will be signing books that day. After the morning and mid-day program, People’s Climate March – Orange County will commence at 2p. RSVP.

Four April events on critically important topics being presented in very interesting ways — hope to see you often between now and the end of the month.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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UPCOMING EVENTS

Today’s candy cigarette? | April 27, 2017, Socially Accepted Practices at CSUF

kon_smoking_001“No society can understand itself without looking at its shadow side.”
― Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

Hi everyone,

I am in my mid-fifties, yet I still recall vividly the pleasure I felt as a five-year-old with a pack of candy cigarettes. What was completely normal at the time would now be seen by many as an insidious attempt by a destructive industry to reach the most vulnerable, indoctrinating them to become future smokers.

Similar to “Big Tobacco” tactics, we know now not to trust the fossil fuel industry to tell us the truth about climate change research conducted decades ago – yet — why have we not exercised the same scrutiny toward the meat, dairy and egg industries? Furthermore, do we trust corporate entities like Monsanto, DuPont, Ford Motor and others to support the common good when they exercise their influence on school curricula? How have we managed to not notice the many schools where animals are raised for profit and slaughter? Is this the best way to support healthy child and adolescent development? Or, today’s candy cigarette?

Please join us on April 27, 6:30pm – 8:30pm for Socially Accepted Practices & Traumatic Impact on Adolescents’ Development (with special guest Gene Baur) at Cal State University Fullerton. Admission is free. Space is limited. Please use above link to register.

BTW: if you missed out on being with us this past Wednesday evening at Soka PAC, you are in luck!
Watch it here:
Critical Conversations with Moby: Vegan Meat-Up on Livestream.
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An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (Nov. 20, 2016) — buy tickets TODAY (online sales end tonight)

Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin. – Victor Kiam

Hi everyone,

I was born and raised in Orange County. I have lived here my entire life and lived to tell about it. I ‘get’ the culture. We all know how it works here in Southern California: “why do it today when you can put it off ’til tomorrow?” Right? We have commitment issues… and there are so many options, so little time. I know. Born and raised in Orange County. I know.

So, this is just a friendly little reminder that time is up — almost up — later tonight, totally, officially, ‘up’ — as far as buying online tickets to attend: An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (Sun Nov 20).

Tickets at the door will be $10 more and subject to availability. We still have room for more students due to donated tickets for them. Contact us for details: info@livingubuntu.org.

This event is going to be extraordinary – seriously, truly awesome – don’t miss it :)

The Candlelight Vigil will be at the end of the event, open to anyone that wants to gather with us at that point – and there will be no open flames due to the fire danger – battery-operated tea lights only – we will supply them. So even if you can’t make it at 4p for the main event, please do feel free to show up at 6:30p to participate in the vigil. We will gather together in support of the much needed, now more than ever, Compassion-for-All.

Thank you for your participation, engagement and support.

Buy Tickets for Nov 20 / Donate here.

For those who attended last Saturday’s “How to Cook Vegan for the Holidays” and wanted the recipes:

For more upcoming events, scroll to the bottom of this email.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

An Evening of Compassion and Being Together
(an event to benefit Living Ubuntu)
buy tickets now!
Sunday, November 20, 4:00pm – 7:00pm

Newport Beach


Re-Examining our Belief Systems: Growing Beyond the Known
(a 3-part
TRE® workshop series)
Saturdays: January 21, February 25, March 18,
9am-4:30pm each day

Newport Beach

An Evening of Compassion and Being Together – Sun. Nov. 20 (online ticket sales end in 2 days)

Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light.
– Albert Schweitzer

Hi everyone,

Please join us this coming Sunday, November 20 4p-7p in Newport Beach for An Evening of Compassion and Being Together. Tickets are $45.00 and that includes dinner. At the door, the price will be $55.00 and subject to availability. In order to avoid food waste or shortage, it would help a lot if you bought your tickets today, even though the on line sales will continue for two more days. Additionally, we have a limited number of donated tickets for students that might not otherwise be able to participate. Contact us for more info.

Due to recent events in the US, we have added a candlelight vigil to the end of Sunday’s event. The vigil will be open to anyone that wants to join us for that portion of the evening. Watch for more details.

Sunday evening will be fun and festive, along with deeply meaningful and serious. We hope it will inspire and re-invigorate those who attend. Our planning team has worked hard to create an experience that helps us remember that ‘We Belong to the Greater Whole’ and sit within the ‘Interconnection’ of the many.

Buy tickets and / or donate here.

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We survive because we can love | Join us Nov 12 & Nov 20 (2016)

Humankind would not have endured and cannot continue without the capacity to form rewarding, nurturing, and enduring relationships. We survive because we can love. And we can love because we can empathize — that is, stand in another’s shoes and care about what it feels like to be there.  

– Bruce Perry & Maia Szalavitz
Hi everyone,
 
For many of us, this week felt disillusioning, violating and assaulting. The fear, dread and anger persist. Living Ubuntu is producing a documentary. Given the election results, I couldn’t help but reflect more deeply on the common themes of authoritarianism, oppression and endoctrination. If we want children to grow up to be healthy adults, able to empathize and love, willing to be ‘upstanders’ when needed, do we really want to ignore school programs where students get the message that:
 “… as long as you did what you were told you would get a good grade…” ?
(watch trailer here)

There is a reason psychotherapists who specialize in trauma recovery wind up talking about re-connecting with benevolence. After the shattering of what we previously believed, for the sake of restoring health, we must re-affirm our connection to goodness. Beyond the disconnection that accompanies woundedness, we belong to the greater whole. We survive because we can love.
 
It has not been an easy time to plan for a fundraising event. We have struggled. Several volunteers posed the question to me awhile ago asking if the timing was right and suggesting that possibly it should be postponed. My response was, “I can’t fully explain it, but it feels important that we do it at this time, despite the difficulties, soon after the election. We don’t know what is going to happen. We might be heading into challenging times. I am not sure it would be easier at a future time. For whatever reason it feels important to offer an event based in compassion, connection and interconnection soon after the election.”
 
As much as I know how, I try to trust my gut on these things. And now I know with even more conviction, not only do we need this event as an opportunity to re-affirm our connection to goodness and to one another, we need to make sure the film gets completed. Your support is necessary and genuinely greatly appreciated.
 
Please join us on Sunday November 20 4p-7p for An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (buy tickets / donate).
 
And — don’t forget that this coming Saturday, November 12 10:30am we will be a Tanaka Farms in Irvine for a free cooking demo, How to Cook Vegan for the Holidays. I am really looking forward to it! See you there?
 
For more upcoming events, scroll to the bottom of this email.
 
In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

How to Cook Vegan for the Holidays

Saturday, November 12, 10:30am – 12:00pm
Irvine

Orange County for Climate Action Meetingnote change of time, agenda and location!
Wednesday, November 16, 5:00pm – 7:00pm
Irvine

An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (an event to benefit Living Ubuntu)buy tickets now!
Sunday, November 20, 4:00pm – 7:00pm

Newport Beach

Re-Examining our Belief Systems: Growing Beyond the Known (a 4-part TRE® workshop series)
Saturdays: January 21, February 25, March 18, April 15
, 9am-4:30pm each day
Newport Beach

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