Feedback from Tarra’s workshop and event about Burma in July

Hi everyone,

Workshop by Tarra Stariell (Saturday, June 5th)

Workshop by Tarra Stariell (Saturday, June 5th). Click to read feedback from participants.

I can’t believe it’s already been two weeks since, No Time to Think, No Time to Breathe… Is This Me?. Tarra gave a great presentation, and thinking, breathing and being restored into one’s own sense of self were not in short supply that day :) Click here to read some of the feedback from participants.

Our Orange County for Darfur campaign has recently expanded its focus to include additional regions where mass atrocities are occurring, including Congo and Burma. It can be challenging to understand the complexities of ethnically based violence in any country. In Burma, a country that does not allow journalists on the ground, information often gets out only through the underground courage of those who put their lives at risk to tell the story.

We are very excited and grateful to have partnered with University Synagogue (and others) to present Understanding Burma: An Evening with Tim Aye Hardy on Thursday, July 1st.

Tim was born and raised in Burma, and was a student organizer of the protests in 1988. His participation in this left him needing to flee the country because his life was endangered. I had the privilege of meeting and getting to know Tim through the Genocide Intervention Network Carl Wilkens Fellowship.

We will be screening the Academy Award nominated documentary Burma VJ, and having a conversation with Tim after the film. It is a rare opportunity to get him out here to Orange County from his current home in New York. We look forward to hearing his firsthand account of life in Burma and really hope you will join us for this event.


Barbara Engilsh
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

Understanding Burma:
An Evening with Tim Aye Hardy

Understanding Burma: An Evening With Tim Aye Hardy

“In June 1988, six military intelligence agents knocked on my door in Rangoon in the middle of the night. They had come to arrest me for speaking out against the regime during the student uprising that came to be known as the ‘8888 Uprising’ . . . I was one of the lucky few. Up to 6,000 innocent protesters were gunned down, and many more were imprisoned or mysteriously disappeared in the night. I lost many colleagues and close friends.”
– Tim Aye Hardy

Thursday, July 1st 2010

University Synagogue
3400 Michelson Dr.
Irvine, CA 92612


What is going on in Burma? How is a military machine of 500,000 soldiers able to deny a country of 50 million it’s most basic rights? Why has Aung San Suu Kyi, a Nobel Peace Price Laureate been under house arrest for over 14 years?

Join us for a screening of Burma VJ and a conversation with Tim Aye Hardy.

Visit for more information. Please RSVP on the website.

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Feedback from Tarra Stariell’s workshop on stress, overwhelm and dissociation

No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this Me?

Workshop by Tarra Stariell (Saturday, June 5th). Click to see pictures from the event.

Last month, Tarra Stariell presented — No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this Me?,  a workshop on the chronic stress and overwhelm so many of us face in the world today.

Below is some of the feedback from participants.

I am so appreciative to have received the information and experience that was offered today.  I understand more, look forward to reviewing what I received at home and with my therapist.  Thanks for this piece of my healing journey.
–  Megan

Interesting + informative.  I can use these exercises to relieve stress – actually take them and use them.  Tarra, great presentation!
–  Chrys

Very well done.  Great pace!
–  Diana

I appreciated the spontaneity and teaching off of the list.  The info was great, but reading directly from the ppt instead of a lecture was a bit boring.
–  Anonymous

Loved it!!!  Was thankful for the ending exercises and getting grounded.

Great job!  I loved this seminar! I am very thankful we didn’t spend 20 minutes a person doing the dyad. Whew! For a three hour seminar that would have been way too long. Thank you for standing up and reminding Tarra of the time. I loved the venue, the room was comfortable and all inclusive. The staff from Living Ubuntu and SCIBA were very open and approachable. Very thankful for the granola bars at break. Overall this was a great experience. I can’t wait for the next seminar!! Bummed I missed the first two in the series. And … everything happens for a reason. See you in October.
–  Karen

Well prepared, succinct and to the point of managing healthfully life’s stressful events, joyful ones too.  Really enjoyed the experiential exercises.
–  Dorothy

Great service to the community; liked learning about Ubuntu & SCIBA.  Great experiential exercises and good group of participants.  Could have been longer & parking was a problem.
–  Anonymous

Great event.  It seemed different that what was advertised (theme)… Nonetheless, great!
–  Anonymous

Really a great little seminar!  I look forward to attending more like it.  Thank you Tarra, the summary of theoretical background coupled with very applicable techniques = GREAT.
A small binder clip on packet would be helpful as packet was a pinch thick… :)  Oh yes, and box of tissues to use as needed.  Some emotions bust loose during dyad experience.
–  Sara

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Living skills for a less stressed and more fulfilled life

Last month Tarra Stariell, presented No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? Here are some reminders that she shared with attendees after the workshop.


:) Anshul

Living skills for a less stressed and more fulfilled life

by Tarra Stariell


Breathe deeply in and out, when you recognize that you are stressing. Breathe in as many counts as breathe out.

Take a moment to take in your surroundings—do the orienting exercise; find your feet, do your toe/finger curlings, get back in touch with your body and the present moment.

Instead of pushing your body to accomplish your goals, become aware of its subtle messages, and then follow them.  Use your attention to “Mind the Body.”

Stretch or engage in some form of physical activity; movement is organizing

When you wake up in the morning, don’t get out of bed immediately.  Take time for contemplation, remembering your dreams, prayer, setting your intention for the day.

Find a way to feel fulfilled in your work, free time and in your relationships.  Judging less and loving/accepting more is a way to increase joy and happiness.  Attitude of gratitude.

Heal your wounded relationships whenever possible, let go of toxic people and bless them on their journey.  Spend time with those you love and learn to accept your differences.  Friends/family can mitigate the effects of stress and increase our resiliency.

We are multi-dimensional beings, needing physical, mental, social, sexual and spiritual contact and expression.  We also have purpose and a need to earn money, seek to have your “vocation your avocation.” (David Whyte)

Play *  Laugh *  Move *  Dance *  Recreate *  Connect *  Be Intimate *  Cry when You Need to *  Risk Feeling *   Live Comfortably in Your Skin *  Sing *  Allow Your Feelings  *  Get Support when You Need It  *  Stay Connected in Your Body *  Life is a Gift when You’re Present to Enjoy It

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Tarra Judson Stariell, MFT, CBT · Mfc 37920 · 760-294-2150
327 South Ivy Street, Escondido, 92025 · 333 Olive Street, San Diego, 92103

Why is saying “I can’t” so difficult?

“Unfortunately, most people do not stop to feel their tiredness. Faced with the pressures of life, they believe that it is a matter of survival to go on as they have been. Feeling tired raises a deep fear that they may not be able to continue the struggle. Many find it difficult to say, ‘I can’t.’ As children, they were taught that where there’s a will, there’s a way. To say, ‘I can’t,’ is to admit failure, which is seen as evidence that they are unworthy of love.”

– Alexander Lowen

Hi everyone,

No time to think, No time to Breathe... Is this Me? (Saturday, June 5th)

Workshop by Tarra Stariell on busyness and overwhelm on Saturday, June 5th

We still have space available for No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? this coming Saturday, June 5th. I really hope you will join us, and here’s why.

It has become commonplace to joke about our crazy-busy-multi-tasking-non-stop-over-scheduled lives, yet how did we get to this place of taking it so lightly? Are we really willing to collapse into resignation and say, this is just the reality of life in current day society? We accept overwhelm as the new norm?

What is this driven-ness to be super-human, defy all limits, and push beyond our natural reservoir of energy?

We are in trouble when start using our emergency inner resources on a day-to-day basis just to get by. The good news / bad news is we can adapt to ever increasing demands really well, but not without paying the horribly destructive price that we stop feeling what we are really doing to ourselves. Eventually we reach exhaustion . . . of course we might not even notice that. Sometimes we just get numb and stop feeling. Despite the exhaustion we just keep going because we don’t feel much of anything anymore. We fail to recognize the self-cruelty in this, and the result of vicarious traumas we have yet to process.

Our bodies were designed to push and stop, run and rest, exert and recuperate, expand and contract. When we stop abiding by the rhythm of life itself, we lose the ability to know our own inner state, think creatively, and grow in consciousness. We also lose the ability to resonate with one another and the greater world around us. We sacrifice our capacity for that which is ultimately human, to relate, bond, connect, empathize, care and love.

None of us deserves this sort of mistreatment. And we will all pay a hefty price if it persists. We need to push the “pause button” and get re-centered. We all need some help with figuring out how to do this.

I hope you will join us this Saturday. If there is any financial hardship, please do let us know. This workshop series is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Barbara Engilsh
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

Early registration for Tarra Stariell’s Workshop ends this Saturday, May 29th

Hi everyone,

No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this me? (Saturday, June 5th)

Workshop by Tarra Stariell on Saturday, June 5th in San Diego

We hope you will join us for the upcoming event No Time To Think, No Time to Breathe… Is this me? by Tarra Stariell. This workshop is intended for those of us who:

  • are chronically busy, over-scheduled and overwhelmed
  • feel like they are going through life on “autopilot”
  • get lost in carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders
  • are a double-booker, multi-tasker and always running late
  • have a difficult relationship with their body (everything hurts)
  • want more “me” time but always find ways to put it off

and, don’t have time to attend this workshop :)

Early registration ($40) ends this Saturday, May 29th. If there are any financial concerns, please do get in touch with us.  This workshop series is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds. All details are on the website.

Also, we do offer discounts to non-profits and organizations that are interested in sending their members. Please contact us for group discounts. Hope you will find the space to join us.

Barbara & Anshul
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

“If we grasped the truth that we are our bodies, we would not tolerate the emotional tortures that we inflict upon ourselves individually and collectively, that twist and deaden our bodies, or that addict us to stimulation. Nor would we bear the body-crippling environment that our culture is creating…

We bear these crimes against ourselves by denying the life of the body, and think of ourselves as worn out or defective machines.”

– Stanley Keleman

More, bigger, faster… disaster??

. . . With the schedule slipping, Williams says a BP manager ordered a faster pace… And he requested to the driller. “Hey, let’s bump it up. Let’s bump it up.”

And what he was talking about there is he’s bumping up the rate of penetration. How fast the drill bit is going down. Williams says going faster caused the bottom of the well to split open swallowing tools and that drilling fluid called mud . . .

(PELLEY) There was pressure on the crew after this happened?
(WILLIAMS) There’s always pressure, but yes, the pressure was increased.

But the trouble was just beginning . . .

— 60 Minutes on the Oil Spill in the Gulf of Mexico (Sunday, May 16)

Hi everyone,

It was very distressing to see the 60 Minutes piece this past Sunday on the recent oil spill. One thing that stood out was how the managers at BP kept on ordering the crew to go faster in light of slipping schedules and lost profits. It is difficult to place the blame squarely on those managers. This need to go faster and faster in our world today seems to be present everywhere. And sometimes with disastrous consequences…

How have our lives gotten so busy?
Why does it seem like everyone is running on “high”?
What makes it so hard to stand up to the pressures around us?

No time to think, No time to Breathe... Is this Me? (Saturday, June 5th)

Tarra Stariell workshop on Saturday, June 5th in San Diego.

On Saturday, June 5th, Tarra Stariell will be presenting — No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? This workshop will address the chronic busyness and overwhelm that we tend to get lost in, and the significant price our bodies pay in this process. This workshop is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds. All information is on the website.

Also, this weekend we are holding the first Living Ubuntu retreat of the year, and the theme is “Embodied Communication”. We will be focusing on listening to our inner self, expressing our self with authenticity, and learning what it feels like to stay grounded at the same time. We’re sorry that we couldn’t accommodate all who wanted to join us, however, we will have another retreat in the fall. If you’d like more information, please do get in touch with us.

Wishing you a deep belly breath :)

Barbara & Anshul
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

“A grounded person feels she has a right to stand here, to be here, to be heard in her silence or her voice.  A grounded person need not speak to be heard while an ungrounded person may talk endlessly without result . . . Being grounded is the prerequisite for feeling centered and being fully in contact . . .

We cannot be grounded and be disconnected in our bodies.”
– John P. Conger

No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? (Saturday, June 5 2010)

“I believe emotions are like mud and encrusted dirt covering a beautifully clear and multi-faceted diamond. Washing away our emotions, reveals the love and joy-filled being we are underneath. The path to this natural state involves expressing our emotions — no matter how ugly or shameful we judge them to be . . .”
– Tarra Stariell

Hi everyone,

As part of the Living Ubuntu / SCIBA collaborative workshop series, so far this year we have had Mac Eaton present on anxiety. And Vincentia Schroeter explored how to deal with loss and heartbreak.

We noticed how many of you told us you wanted to attend one or more of our past workshops, but couldn’t fit it into your schedule. Many of you were already juggling too many other things you needed to do. A few of you were already double-booked. Some of you were multi-tasking even as you read the emails.

So we decided to present a workshop on our ridiculously busy lives, and the risk of losing our selves in the process. Now it goes without saying that you want to attend, but just don’t know how to fit it in, and that is the point :) If you don’t have time for this, you are the one that needs to be there!

No Time to Think, No Time to Breathe… Is this me? presented by Tarra Stariell, Saturday June 5th in San Diego. All information is below and on the website.

We hope you will be able to join us (but understand if you can’t 01.gif)

Barbara & Anshul
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

No time to think, No time to breathe…

Is this me?


Tarra Stariell

No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this me?

presented by

Living Ubuntu
Southern California Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis

Saturday, June 5 2010
9:00a – 12:00p

University of San Diego
Manchester Conference Center
5998 Alcala Park I
San Diego, CA 92110

Why is it so hard to keep up? Where is the time for me? Why do I feel so lost in my own life?

Join us for a workshop about our overwhelmed lives and how to find our way back to a healthy balance. This is a not-for-profit event. No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Advance registration is required. Please visit for more information.

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