April 15 (2018), Connecting the Dots — time to get your tickets

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The human race is challenged more than ever before to demonstrate our mastery, not over nature but of ourselves.
— Rachel Carson
Hi everyone,

There is a better path. To find it, we must first recognize the path we are on and its inadequacies.

Call it what you wish, our collective trauma, brokenness, woundedness… pulls us to self-absorption and unplugs our holistic mind. Rightly so. When we perceive a threat, self-survival is top priority. This is exactly what a fight-flight survival defense mechanism that got us evolved this far is supposed to do.

If you encountered the term, species-preservation, given that we are currently on a trajectory to mass extinction, you might think it refers to an environmental conservation effort for endangered wildlife. Yet, two decades ago, in a published journal article on PTSD, Sheila Wang referenced it as a human mindset about other humans. It is what we lose access to when we feel threatened. The fight-flight activation unplugs us from the affiliative sense of being part of the whole. It gets replaced by self-preservation only.

Dr. Bruce Perry is famous for saying, states become traits. A defense mechanism designed for occasional use, to save our life in extreme situations, has become a normalized way of life for far too many of us.

As we look around and see the acculturation of hierarchy, oppression, and pathological narcissism, it points to our loss of healthy state of mind, and it is killing us.

We are not just ‘born this way’. We are not a world full of ‘bad seeds’. We are the product of life experiences across the generations. Within the healing of the collective, a foundational connection to goodness is affirmed and strengthened. At the intersection of our varied forms of oppression, there lies the key to transformation and increased compassion.

There is a better path and we must find it together.

We are hosting what we think will be an extremely powerful, interactive, intersectional, and engaging program. Our featured speakers include Gene Baur, Claire Kim and Katie-Jay Scott. We have assembled many additional speakers from the local area speaking from first hand experiences. While many serious topics will be presented, we will also have some fun and are starting the day by having a meal together.

Please join us for:
CONNECTING THE DOTS: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, (Sunday, April 15, 12p-5p) —

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In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event)
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Gene Baur: Increasing Compassion, Sustainability & Equity in our Food System
Friday, April 13, 7:30pm – 9:30pm

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm



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Arthur Trey Carlisle * Jose Trinidad Castenada * Barbara English * Michele Martinez * Amina Mohamed * Piper Sample * Audrey Waight


Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences (Sunday, April 15, 2018)

5757686065_7c1b9c666a_z“The lamps are different, but the light is the same.”  – Rumi
Hi everyone,

Within Ubuntu, Desmond Tutu tells us that we have the “proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed….”

Unlike a worldview based in belonging, the wound that disconnects perceives “Other”. We need not look far in today’s world and historically to find that those who lack institutional power are often commodified and subjugated to the insidious, authoritarian, patriarchal dominance of hierarchal oppression. In contrast to self-assurance, many feel threatened. Some are terrified. And we are all diminished when this occurs.

At this critical point in time when there is so much at stake, it is imperative that we rapidly, significantly, and authentically change the narrative. This will require that we go deeper inside ourselves and with each other. We must identify and “own up to” where we have fallen short, normalize kindness, and learn “repair” to come back into healthy states of connection after inevitable breaches have occurred. This is the essential opportunity to expand our point of view in recognition of the necessary interdependence that is Gaia, the interconnectedness of the all, the whole of life that sustains us, that we in turn sustain as part of it.

When the conventionality we have been indoctrinated into has grown destructive and obsolete, it is time for transformation.

Please join us for:

CONNECTING THE DOTS: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, (Sunday, April 15, 12p-5p)

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole.



Break Free, Catching the Sun, and Living Vegan “Social”

You carry Mother Earth within you. She is not outside of you. Mother Earth is not just your environment. In that insight of inter-being, it is possible to have real communication with the Earth, which is the highest form of prayer.
– Thich Nhat Hahn

Hi everyone,

Have you been following the extremely tragic wildfires in Canada? A CNN opinion piece is titled, The fire in Canada looks a lot like climate change — and that should scare you. The reality is that climate change is advancing rapidly and by no means are we doing all we could to slow it or adapt to that which is inevitable. As the 350.org campaign this week makes the case to Break Free from fossil fuels, actions are taking place all over the world in support of fast, dramatic, effective change.

(Also see: May 14 – 350.org L.A. March. I will be in Los Angeles that weekend, and I recognize the irony that I will be unable to attend the event as I am taking the Somatic Experiencing – Foundations of Disaster Response that weekend, to learn more about how to increase trauma recovery in these critical situations.)

For those of you who live near to Orange County, please come join us Tuesday, May 10, 7:30p, for the one night only screening of Catching the Sun at the Frida Cinema, scheduled to take place during the 350.org Break Free campaign. (Advance tickets.)

If Canadian wildfires aren’t a vivid enough reminder of what is at stake, last month Newsweek published, We’re Running Out of Water, and Consequences Could be Dire. Changing what we eat is the additional essential part of the equation to reduce water use and greenhouse gas emissions. For anyone interested in having a great vegan meal today, come join us today at 5:30p in Laguna Beach. Here are the details of the Living Vegan “Social”. We will walk to the beach, so come prepared for that.

Let’s do all we can to pull together on this. Too much is at stake not to. Here is one example of what can be done: San Diego Republican mayor pushes plan to run on 100% renewable energy. Continue reading

GAWI this Saturday, March 12 — To change everything, we need everyone.

If you want to go fast – go alone. And if you want to go far – go together. – African proverb

Hi everyone,

Do you have anything on your mind that you wish could be different in this world?

If so, how about coming out this Saturday March 12, 9:30am – 1:30pm for Women For: Orange County’s 31st Annual Great American Write In at the Delhi Center in Santa Ana?

Living Ubuntu will have a table and we will be featuring actions from our project Living Vegan. And at the table next door will be our partner, United Nations Association of Orange County, where actions from Orange County for Climate Action will be hosted. Make sure you come find us!

Many of you have been participating in, or attending, the Great American Write In for a long time so you already know what an incredible opportunity it is. If this is the first you have heard of it, just know the room is full of really interesting progressive organizations doing great things in the world, and the purpose of the event is not just to find out more about what these groups are doing, it’s to take action! This is the ultimate advocacy experience!

So, like I started with, if you have anything on your mind that you wish could be different in the world, go show your support on Saturday joining with others who are like-minded and make the number of post cards and letters that get signed that day a truly powerful voice for positive change.

Also — Living Vegan has its planning meeting this Thursday and Orange County for Climate Action will meet next Wednesday. We would love to have more of you getting involved with us.
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Intro to Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE), May 17 in Santa Ana

Paradoxically, the more we let go into life the more we discover that we can re-take control of our lives and participate once again in the precarious nature of being human. Only by letting go can we unlock ourselves from the past, be delivered into the future and prepare ourselves for our next evolutionary experience.
– Dr. David Berceli


Introduction to
Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE)

An introductory level experiential mini workshop on chronic and traumatic stress, vicarious and trans-generational trauma, compassion fatigue, and recovery

Saturday, May 17, 2014, 9:30a-12:30p

American Red Cross of Orange County
Room 232 PC (in the main building) – ROOM CHANGED TO 208PC
601 N Golden Cir Dr
Santa Ana, CA 92705

Pre-registration by May 15:

At the door, if space available:

*If you are experiencing financial hardship, please contact us. No one turned away for lack of funds.

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The human body registers everything that occurs to it, both physically and neurologically. And if we do not resolve trauma all it can do is to continue to wear us down over life psychologically, emotionally and physically.
– Dr. David Berceli

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