Re-Examining our Belief Systems (Part I) – January 14, 2016

There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
– Anais Nin

Hi everyone,

It is characteristic of unresolved trauma to create endless loops of repeating the past. History repeats in part because the collective is traumatized and doesn’t know it, see it, admit to it or know what to do about it.  Without many, many individuals within the collective doing the deep work of personal growth and healing, cultural patterns will keep repeating, action plans will be at risk of perpetuating the status quo, and a sense of profoundly new vision will be highly improbable.

Part I of Re-Examining our Belief Systems: Growing Beyond the Known will be Saturday, January 14, 9:00am – 4:30pm.

This series is well-suited for those who are discontent with the status quo, but feel unsure of how to bring about change. It will offer a safe space to explore personal belief systems and worldview as well as how to come into a deeper understanding of what we see going on around us. While information about stress and trauma will be presented, these workshops will be largely experiential and include two sessions per workshop practicing Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises. We will begin at the so to speak ‘top’ layer and go deeper each time. In January, we will begin by looking at the role of chronic stress in our lives, how our conditioning limits us and keeps us stuck in an unhealthy status quo. We will also explore how to grow beyond that.

May you find great enjoyment in the holidays with those who mean the most to you.

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An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (Nov. 20, 2016) — buy tickets TODAY (online sales end tonight)

Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin. – Victor Kiam

Hi everyone,

I was born and raised in Orange County. I have lived here my entire life and lived to tell about it. I ‘get’ the culture. We all know how it works here in Southern California: “why do it today when you can put it off ’til tomorrow?” Right? We have commitment issues… and there are so many options, so little time. I know. Born and raised in Orange County. I know.

So, this is just a friendly little reminder that time is up — almost up — later tonight, totally, officially, ‘up’ — as far as buying online tickets to attend: An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (Sun Nov 20).

Tickets at the door will be $10 more and subject to availability. We still have room for more students due to donated tickets for them. Contact us for details: info@livingubuntu.org.

This event is going to be extraordinary – seriously, truly awesome – don’t miss it :)

The Candlelight Vigil will be at the end of the event, open to anyone that wants to gather with us at that point – and there will be no open flames due to the fire danger – battery-operated tea lights only – we will supply them. So even if you can’t make it at 4p for the main event, please do feel free to show up at 6:30p to participate in the vigil. We will gather together in support of the much needed, now more than ever, Compassion-for-All.

Thank you for your participation, engagement and support.

Buy Tickets for Nov 20 / Donate here.

For those who attended last Saturday’s “How to Cook Vegan for the Holidays” and wanted the recipes:

For more upcoming events, scroll to the bottom of this email.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org
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(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole
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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

An Evening of Compassion and Being Together
(an event to benefit Living Ubuntu)
buy tickets now!
Sunday, November 20, 4:00pm – 7:00pm

Newport Beach


Re-Examining our Belief Systems: Growing Beyond the Known
(a 3-part
TRE® workshop series)
Saturdays: January 21, February 25, March 18,
9am-4:30pm each day

Newport Beach

An Evening of Compassion and Being Together – Sun. Nov. 20 (online ticket sales end in 2 days)

Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light.
– Albert Schweitzer

Hi everyone,

Please join us this coming Sunday, November 20 4p-7p in Newport Beach for An Evening of Compassion and Being Together. Tickets are $45.00 and that includes dinner. At the door, the price will be $55.00 and subject to availability. In order to avoid food waste or shortage, it would help a lot if you bought your tickets today, even though the on line sales will continue for two more days. Additionally, we have a limited number of donated tickets for students that might not otherwise be able to participate. Contact us for more info.

Due to recent events in the US, we have added a candlelight vigil to the end of Sunday’s event. The vigil will be open to anyone that wants to join us for that portion of the evening. Watch for more details.

Sunday evening will be fun and festive, along with deeply meaningful and serious. We hope it will inspire and re-invigorate those who attend. Our planning team has worked hard to create an experience that helps us remember that ‘We Belong to the Greater Whole’ and sit within the ‘Interconnection’ of the many.

Buy tickets and / or donate here.

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We survive because we can love | Join us Nov 12 & Nov 20 (2016)

Humankind would not have endured and cannot continue without the capacity to form rewarding, nurturing, and enduring relationships. We survive because we can love. And we can love because we can empathize — that is, stand in another’s shoes and care about what it feels like to be there.  

– Bruce Perry & Maia Szalavitz
Hi everyone,
 
For many of us, this week felt disillusioning, violating and assaulting. The fear, dread and anger persist. Living Ubuntu is producing a documentary. Given the election results, I couldn’t help but reflect more deeply on the common themes of authoritarianism, oppression and endoctrination. If we want children to grow up to be healthy adults, able to empathize and love, willing to be ‘upstanders’ when needed, do we really want to ignore school programs where students get the message that:
 “… as long as you did what you were told you would get a good grade…” ?
(watch trailer here)

There is a reason psychotherapists who specialize in trauma recovery wind up talking about re-connecting with benevolence. After the shattering of what we previously believed, for the sake of restoring health, we must re-affirm our connection to goodness. Beyond the disconnection that accompanies woundedness, we belong to the greater whole. We survive because we can love.
 
It has not been an easy time to plan for a fundraising event. We have struggled. Several volunteers posed the question to me awhile ago asking if the timing was right and suggesting that possibly it should be postponed. My response was, “I can’t fully explain it, but it feels important that we do it at this time, despite the difficulties, soon after the election. We don’t know what is going to happen. We might be heading into challenging times. I am not sure it would be easier at a future time. For whatever reason it feels important to offer an event based in compassion, connection and interconnection soon after the election.”
 
As much as I know how, I try to trust my gut on these things. And now I know with even more conviction, not only do we need this event as an opportunity to re-affirm our connection to goodness and to one another, we need to make sure the film gets completed. Your support is necessary and genuinely greatly appreciated.
 
Please join us on Sunday November 20 4p-7p for An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (buy tickets / donate).
 
And — don’t forget that this coming Saturday, November 12 10:30am we will be a Tanaka Farms in Irvine for a free cooking demo, How to Cook Vegan for the Holidays. I am really looking forward to it! See you there?
 
For more upcoming events, scroll to the bottom of this email.
 
In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org
| facebook | donate »
(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole
.

:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

How to Cook Vegan for the Holidays

Saturday, November 12, 10:30am – 12:00pm
Irvine

Orange County for Climate Action Meetingnote change of time, agenda and location!
Wednesday, November 16, 5:00pm – 7:00pm
Irvine

An Evening of Compassion and Being Together (an event to benefit Living Ubuntu)buy tickets now!
Sunday, November 20, 4:00pm – 7:00pm

Newport Beach

Re-Examining our Belief Systems: Growing Beyond the Known (a 4-part TRE® workshop series)
Saturdays: January 21, February 25, March 18, April 15
, 9am-4:30pm each day
Newport Beach

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Three things I am super excited about. (SoCal VegFest Oct 29 & 30 | An Evening of Compassion and Being Together Nov 20)

Hi everyone,

There are at least three things I am super excited about right now, if not more.

First, next weekend is the October 29 & 30 SoCal VegFest. Last year was absolutely amazing, especially given that it was the first time ever in Orange County. 10,000 people attended the all day vegan festival! This year it has been expanded into a two day event.

“The purpose of SoCal VegFest is to introduce Southern Californians and others to the benefits of healthy conscious living. Our goal is to inspire and support anyone who wants to learn more about living a more healthy, environmentally friendly, and compassionate life.”
Second, Living Ubuntu will have a booth at the SoCal VegFest and we will be screening for the first time ever in public the trailer for our upcoming feature length documentary! Come to our booth to watch it. Plus, permaculturist extraordinaire, Lucian Toma, has graciously agreed to demonstrate worm bin composting at our booth (Saturday morning only).  And much more!

Third, we have confirmed that Andy Shrader will be our special guest speaker on November 20 for Living Ubuntu’s An Evening of Compassion and Being Together. The title of his talk is,  “Radically Alive Planet,” and I can’t wait to hear it! Vegan environmentalists that practice living an embodied life while being highly effective in getting things done are truly hard to come by. A few of Andy’s many impressive accomplishments can be found on the event site where you can also buy your tickets to attend and / or donate.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org

(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. What dehumanizes you inexorably dehumanizes me.

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In a Gentle Way You Can Shake Your World – early registration thru Feb 3 (Forks Over Knives tonight!)


Hi everyone,

This coming Wednesday, February 3, is the last day of early registration for In a Gentle Way You Can Shake Your World, a 5-session group series to learn and refine the practice of the method created by Dr David Berceli, Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises. (What is TRE?)

We are a highly traumatized culture, in denial about it, and it is dangerous. We desperately need a better understanding of trauma to enter the mainstream so we as a society might make better choices as to what we think of as solutions.

While the current race for US President stands out as an exceptionally good example of our culture’s trauma, it is by no means the only one worthy of recognition. It is the new norm in our society to live feeling chronically overwhelmed by the day-to-day routine, with most people not recognizing that as trauma. A human nervous system might beg to differ. Beyond overwhelm, we have come to applaud narcissistic grandiosity, disconnection and hyper-independence. Humiliation and bullying have become sources of entertainment, as if sports. It is easy to place blame externally and say if only so and so would do it differently, we could live in a better, healthier, happier existence. Continue reading

Living congruent with our values | Upcoming events

The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people.
– Martin Luther King, Jr.

Hi everyone,

As much as December offers a time to look back reflectively on the year that was, January brings a clean slate to begin again. It provides us with the opportunity to re-commit to the process of living congruent with our values and the life we genuinely aspire to live. Sometimes summoning our will isn’t enough because as homeostatic beings, we need transformation to come from a deeper place within us if it is to be lasting. Finding ways to re-inhabit our own body and surrounding ourselves with social support can be essential in re-aligning our life. Spending time in nature and with animals is another aspect. The sense of feeling that we belong to a greater whole can be fostered by the micro-experience of feeling well-connected to those who are nearby, regardless of species.

In 2016, Living Ubuntu will be increasing its emphasis on support for health, well-being and compassion – for us as individuals, and for the greater whole that extends far beyond humanity only. Continue reading

…what is important is how the body feels — Intro to TRE Sep 26


…[most] are not aware of the lack of aliveness in their bodies. People are so accustomed to thinking of the body as an instrument or a tool of the mind that they accept its relative deadness as a normal state. …what is important is how the body feels
.
– Alexander Lowen

Hi everyone,

Next Saturday, September 26, 10a – noon, Living Ubuntu is hosting Intro to TRE – Fundraiser: Trauma Recovery for East African Refugees. Many of you are familiar with this method, created by Dr. David Berceli. For those of you that aren’t, I want to encourage you to come give it a try. (See: What is TRE?)

I first learned Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) from Dr. Berceli back in 2004, and it is not an exaggeration to say it dramatically changed my life and the path I was pursuing. The story is too long for email, so if you want to hear it, we need to meet up for coffee ;)

By now I have had the privilege of teaching thousands of people, and countless times I have heard how it helped them sleep better. The list of additional benefits is long. For those who continue to practice it over time, stories of significant healing and a way of being able to enjoy living differently in their own skin are plentiful. Recently, I even heard a story about how it helped someone’s tennis game :)

I am very passionate about the wish for us all to have more access to compassion and live more embodied, healthy lives, so I could go on and on. Instead, I am just going to issue the invitation again – come give it a try and see how you feel. Continue reading

So much is happening!


Hi everyone,

Thanks again to everyone that showed up at the Living Ubuntu Veggie Grill Fundraiser. It was a lot of fun, great to see all of you, and your support really means a lot.

We also had a really good turnout for our very first “Continuing in the Community” event for the women in City Heights who are part of the East African refugee community. It was so good to see so many coming together in the pursuit of their own personal healing as well as supporting wellness throughout the community. Beginning in September there will be both a women’s group and a men’s group. We continue to need donations to support this project, so any amount you can contribute, one-time or monthly, we would be very grateful for. Donate here. Continue reading

Intro to TRE – Fundraiser: Trauma Recovery for East African Refugees (September 26, 2015)

Update 9/25: We are now full for this mini workshop.
Please send us an email at info@livingubuntu.org
if you want to be on a first-to-be-notified list for the next one.

Intro to TRE – Fundraiser:
Trauma Recovery for East African Refugees

Saturday, September 26, 2015
10:00am – 12:00pm
4001 Birch St. Unit A
Newport Beach CA 92660

Minimum suggested donation: $20.00
Pay at the door, or donate here.
RSVP: info@livingubuntu.org

ALL PROCEEDS WILL BENEFIT:
Phase 4: Continuing in the Community
(Trauma Recovery for East African Refugees in San Diego)
RSVP: info@livingubuntu.org

Come learn Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) and help the East African refugee community in San Diego all at the same time!

We have successfully completed the first three phases of this project, and now need contributions to support continuing the healing in this often over-looked local community.

Can’t attend, but want to donate? Great!
DONATE HERE:

Online fundraising for Phase 4: Continuing in the Community (Trauma Recovery for East African Refugees in San Diego) Continue reading