Find people who regulate you well and stay near them (June 2018 events)

Adults remain social animals: they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. …in some important ways people cannot be stable on their own.…
Total self-sufficiency turns out to be a daydream….
Stability means finding people who regulate you well and staying near them.
– Charney et al

Hi everyone,

What are you doing on Saturday, June 16? A bunch of us are taking a day trip to visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton. If you have never been there, it is a wonderful place, so you might want to come with us.

We filled up super fast for the number of spots we reserved on the tour. If you want to come, but did not register on Eventbrite yet, let us know by adding your name to the Eventbrite Wait List. We will do our best to accommodate everyone, but that means, we need you to let us know you want to be there. Do not hesitate, carpool arrangements will be getting finalized at the end of this week. So the time to tell us you want ‘in’ is now (or very soon).

June has many additional interesting things happening, so scroll down for a few more Upcoming Community Events.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING COMMUNITY EVENTS:::

SoCal VegFest: Plant Fest (or on Facebook) — free!
Saturday June 2 & Sunday June 3, 10:00a.m. – 3:00p.m. each day
Irvine

Neighborhood Congregational Church: “World Peace & Justice Weekend – A Two Day Oasis of Compassion
Saturday June 9 & Sunday June 10
Laguna Beach
* Audrey Waight, Art Trey Carlisle & Barbara English will present: “Healing the Disconnect: Caring for the Earth as a Whole” on Saturday afternoon

Living Ubuntu: “Field Trip from Orange County to Visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton
Saturday, June 16, 10:00 a.m. – 6:00p.m.
Acton

Animal Rights National Conference
Thursday June 28 – Sunday July 1
Los Angeles
* Gene Baur, Synthian Sharp & Barbara English will present: “So Give Me An F” on Friday morning

Carl Wilkens (4/25/18), TRE (4/28/18), and a trip to Farm Sanctuary – join us?

interspecies-frands1Differences are not intended to separate, to alienate.
We are different precisely in order to realize our need of one another.
– Desmond Tutu

Hi everyone,

The April events have been great so far, especially, “Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences“. We have received a lot of incredibly positive feedback about the event and several have expressed their desire for it to become something we do annually. We invite you to join our planning team as we take some time to reflect on that idea and ponder the possibilities. Meanwhile, we have two more events this month.

First, a gentle reminder:
An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion, Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm-9:30pm.
FREE ADMISSION |
EVENT DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

April included many topics that are emotionally challenging. It felt important to end the month with an opportunity to come together and ‘release’. Please join us for:
Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE®): Connection, Compassion & Community, Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm.
FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | EVENT DETAILS & REGISTRATION. (All are welcome: first-timers and those who have already learned.)

Some of you joined us last May when we visited Farm Sanctuary. We had a great time that day! Since Gene Baur, Co-founder of Farm Sanctuary, was recently here speaking at two of our local events, we wanted to invite you to join us as we visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton again this year, on a weekend, possibly in early June, date: TBD. We will leave mid-morning from Orange County in a carpool, arrive in Acton mid-day, picnic on the grounds with BYO vegan lunch, then take a private Farm Sanctuary tour ($10 to FS per person). Would you like to come with us? Send an email to: info@livingubuntu.org and we will make sure to include you.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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Human Flow – tonight (4/12/18), Gene Baur – tomorrow (4/13/18), Connecting the Dots – Sunday (4/15/18)

704x498xgene-baur.png.pagespeed.ic_.g4tcjUPMKQ-950-945x668Hi everyone,

Just a few friendly reminders:

A Screening of “Human Flow” tonight!
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Gene Baur: Increasing Compassion, Sustainability & Equity in our Food System tomorrow!
Friday, April 13, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences — Sunday!
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Space is limited. Please pre-register to save your spot and reduce the length of time you spend in line at check in.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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April 15, 2018 “Connecting the Dots” – be there to amplify their voices – Register today!

 resilience
diversity asks: who’s in the room
equity responds: who’s trying to get in the room but can’t, and whose presence in the room is under constant threat of erasure
inclusion asks: have everyone’s ideas been heard?
justice responds: whose ideas won’t be taken seriously because they aren’t in the majority
– Intercultural Communication Institute
Hi everyone,
Sometimes the obvious isn’t. In a culture that seems obsessed with bootstraps, Dr. Martin Luther King once said:

“It’s a cruel jest to say to a bootless man that he ought to lift himself by his bootstraps. And many Negroes, by the thousands and millions, have been left bootless … as the result of a society that deliberately made his color a stigma…” (video)
 

It is only a week away. Please register now for Sunday, April 15, Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences. Seriously. Please register.

This is important. Your engaged presence, is needed. Bring your curiosity and your openness. We can do this – together. Let’s transform the narrative.

In addition to the exceptional program speakers who are varying degrees of closer to my age, (GENE BAUR, CLAIRE JEAN KIM, KATIE-JAY SCOTT, MODERATOR: APRIL HOUSTON, VIA VIDEO: APH KO), and the amazing food and cooking demo we will have thanks to vegan food miracle-ist, JONI MARIE NEWMAN, a section of the program will feature AMINA MOHAMED, AUDREY WAIGHT, NYAJUOK SUNDAY KUANY, ART TREY CARLISLE and JOSE TRINIDAD CASTENADA, the voice of millennials. We have many dots to connect, and some of them extend across the generations. Come support, resonate and connect. Expand the impact of what they have to say by being in the room. Be there to learn from them and to amplify their voices.

BTW: Oprah will be interviewing Bryan Stevenson of Equal Justice Initiative on 60 MINUTES tonight: Oprah Winfrey gets first look inside memorial to the victims of lynchings.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event)
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Gene Baur: Increasing Compassion, Sustainability & Equity in our Food System
Friday, April 13, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Irvine

 

An Intersectional April (2018) – Come join us for these six events

tendril1Intersectionality:
… attempts to identify how interlocking systems of power impact those who are most marginalized in society.
– Wikipedia

Hi everyone,

Have you seen the trailer for the Ai Weiwei film Human Flow? Growing hardened to the suffering of others endangers us all. We chose this film in collaboration with the Golden West College Peace Studies Program as an optimal pre-conference event for their 12th Annual GWC Peace Conference, “Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions” Friday April 20, and Living Ubuntu’sConnecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences”Sunday April 15. “Human Flow” will screen on Thursday April 12 (free admission | vegan refreshments).

Additionally, for anyone not yet familiar with who Gene Baur is, it’s time to get there. Watch this clip from when he was on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart. We are very excited to feature Gene in Orange County TWICE this month. The context for his talk will be distinctly different at Fullerton College on Friday April 13 vs as part of the amazing intersectional April 15 Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, where many inspiring, thought-provoking speakers will be featured. (i.e. you might want to come to both.)

As if that is not enough, Carl Wilkens, the only American who chose to stay throughout the 1994 Rwanda genocide will be talking about Respect-Empathy-Inclusion (REI) at Fullerton College on Wednesday, April 25. He was highlighted in the PBS Frontline documentary, Ghosts of Rwanda, view a clip here.
To close out the month, Intro to Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises: Connection, Compassion and Community is back. Join us Saturday April 28 for this free event with vegan refreshments.

There is limited space at these events. Please make sure to register. To find all six events all in one place: Living Ubuntu Events.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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LIVING UBUNTU


GENE BAUR * CLAIRE KIM * KATIE-JAY SCOTT * JONI MARIE NEWMAN
Moderator: April Houston | Emcee: Miriam Mirshafiee
Video by Aph Ko

plus:
Arthur Trey Carlisle * Jose Trinidad Castenada * Barbara English * Nyajuok ‘Sunday’ Kuany * Michele Martinez * Amina Mohamed * Piper Sample * Adelia Sandoval * Audrey Waight
CAMP DARFUR * SILENT AUCTION * VEGAN COOKING DEMO * LUNCH: GREEN GODDESS BOWL * ACTIONS TO TAKE
& more…

Our Partners:
CHARTER FOR COMPASSION, HB HUDDLE, I-ACT, OCCA, SARAH, SOCAL VEGFEST, UNA-OC
 
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April 15 (2018), Connecting the Dots — time to get your tickets

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The human race is challenged more than ever before to demonstrate our mastery, not over nature but of ourselves.
— Rachel Carson
Hi everyone,

There is a better path. To find it, we must first recognize the path we are on and its inadequacies.

Call it what you wish, our collective trauma, brokenness, woundedness… pulls us to self-absorption and unplugs our holistic mind. Rightly so. When we perceive a threat, self-survival is top priority. This is exactly what a fight-flight survival defense mechanism that got us evolved this far is supposed to do.

If you encountered the term, species-preservation, given that we are currently on a trajectory to mass extinction, you might think it refers to an environmental conservation effort for endangered wildlife. Yet, two decades ago, in a published journal article on PTSD, Sheila Wang referenced it as a human mindset about other humans. It is what we lose access to when we feel threatened. The fight-flight activation unplugs us from the affiliative sense of being part of the whole. It gets replaced by self-preservation only.

Dr. Bruce Perry is famous for saying, states become traits. A defense mechanism designed for occasional use, to save our life in extreme situations, has become a normalized way of life for far too many of us.

As we look around and see the acculturation of hierarchy, oppression, and pathological narcissism, it points to our loss of healthy state of mind, and it is killing us.

We are not just ‘born this way’. We are not a world full of ‘bad seeds’. We are the product of life experiences across the generations. Within the healing of the collective, a foundational connection to goodness is affirmed and strengthened. At the intersection of our varied forms of oppression, there lies the key to transformation and increased compassion.

There is a better path and we must find it together.

We are hosting what we think will be an extremely powerful, interactive, intersectional, and engaging program. Our featured speakers include Gene Baur, Claire Kim and Katie-Jay Scott. We have assembled many additional speakers from the local area speaking from first hand experiences. While many serious topics will be presented, we will also have some fun and are starting the day by having a meal together.

Please join us for:
CONNECTING THE DOTS: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, (Sunday, April 15, 12p-5p) —
DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

Scroll down for UPCOMING EVENTS.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event)
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Gene Baur: Increasing Compassion, Sustainability & Equity in our Food System
Friday, April 13, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Irvine

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GENE BAUR * CLAIRE KIM * KATIE-JAY SCOTT * JONI MARIE NEWMAN

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plus:
Arthur Trey Carlisle * Jose Trinidad Castenada * Barbara English * Michele Martinez * Amina Mohamed * Piper Sample * Audrey Waight

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Watch 60 Minutes Sunday (March 11) | April 2018 calendar of events

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Hi everyone,

This coming Sunday on 60 Minutes, Oprah Winfrey will be featured interviewing the amazing national childhood trauma expert, Dr. Bruce Perry. See the preview here. If you are not familiar yet with the study done two decades ago linking Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEstoohigh, ACEsconnection) to both emotional difficulties and physical illness, with the long-term wise, informed voice of Dr. Bruce Perry, and with the national movement within various jurisdictions and institutions to become trauma-informed, please make sure you watch the interview.

And if by chance, you are someone devoted to activism, appalled by today’s political ‘climate’ – last November, the Washington Post published, “At Yale, we conducted an experiment to turn conservatives into liberals. The results say a lot about our political divisions.Please read it here.

We need to understand that traumatization changes the inner state and subjective sense of the world. It can both deaden us so that we do not fear the thing we should, and cause us to feel threatened by the thing that is actually benign (e.g. sometimes that “rattle snake” on the hiking trail is actually just a stick).

Calm the fears and the political discourse will shift. To calm the fears, heal the trauma.

We have many events coming up in April. Please check out the calendar of events at the bottom of this email.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event) — save the date!
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences tickets on sale now!
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion (REI)
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm
Irvine

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences (Sunday, April 15, 2018)

5757686065_7c1b9c666a_z“The lamps are different, but the light is the same.”  – Rumi
Hi everyone,

Within Ubuntu, Desmond Tutu tells us that we have the “proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed….”

Unlike a worldview based in belonging, the wound that disconnects perceives “Other”. We need not look far in today’s world and historically to find that those who lack institutional power are often commodified and subjugated to the insidious, authoritarian, patriarchal dominance of hierarchal oppression. In contrast to self-assurance, many feel threatened. Some are terrified. And we are all diminished when this occurs.

At this critical point in time when there is so much at stake, it is imperative that we rapidly, significantly, and authentically change the narrative. This will require that we go deeper inside ourselves and with each other. We must identify and “own up to” where we have fallen short, normalize kindness, and learn “repair” to come back into healthy states of connection after inevitable breaches have occurred. This is the essential opportunity to expand our point of view in recognition of the necessary interdependence that is Gaia, the interconnectedness of the all, the whole of life that sustains us, that we in turn sustain as part of it.

When the conventionality we have been indoctrinated into has grown destructive and obsolete, it is time for transformation.


Please join us for:

CONNECTING THE DOTS: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, (Sunday, April 15, 12p-5p)
DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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An Evening w John Hall, Kindness Amidst Chaos, Stories from Lesvos (February 9, 2018) — CANCELLED

Hi everyone,

An Evening with John Hall, Kindness Amidst Chaos, Stories from Lesvos was scheduled to take place this coming Friday evening. Due to unforeseen circumstances, John is not able to be with us on February 9. Most unfortunately the event has been cancelled.

We will reschedule with John hopefully very soon as the topic is extremely important. As soon as we know when that is going to be we will let you know. Our apologies for any inconvenience.

Meanwhile, please save this date: Sunday, April 15 (12p – 5p). We are planning to take the conversation deeper with a very special event at the Delhi Center in Santa Ana. This highly intersectional and experiential discussion will focus on transforming our prejudices into increased sustainability and compassion, and will feature Gene Baur (Farm Sanctuary), Claire Kim (UCI Poli Sci), Katie-Jay Stauring (i-ACT), Kiel Majewski (Carl Wilkens Fellowship) and Joni Marie Newman (Just the Food).

BTW: Would you like to volunteer with Living Ubuntu? We are looking for a few more who might want to join our volunteer team to help us plan for April 15 and other events and advocacy efforts coming up soon. If you want to jump in with us, just send an email to: info@livingubuntu.org.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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Sat May 6, 2017: “The Milk Myth” & “SEVEN”

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Hi everyone,

Last week was amazing! Thank you so much to all who came out for any or all of the events, Socially Accepted Practices & Traumatic Impact on Adolescents’ Development, The 11th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference, and Crises in the Ocean: How Compassionate Action Benefits Us All (w/ People’s Climate March). Additional gratitude to the incredible speakers, volunteers and organizations that helped to make all three events possible, highly successful and well-attended.

So, what’s next?

This coming Saturday, May 6, 10:00am – 12:00pm, come join Plant Powered OC at the Whole Foods in Brea for The Milk Myth & Non-Dairy Food Sampling! In honor of May as the month of Mother’s, we will be re-thinking our relationship with milk. Plant-Based Nutrition Advisor, Gina Bonanno-Lemos, will help us understand the research that begs to differ with the dairy industry slogans, such as “Milk Does a Body Good” and the myth of ‘happy cows’. Along with some serous learning, this event is going to be super-fun! We will be sampling plant-based milks, cheeses and ice cream. For those who want to learn more about how to transition to eating more plants, here is your opportunity to taste before you buy, and learn about the differing health benefits all at the same time. Admission is free. Space is limited. Register here.

Also on Saturday, May 6, 7:00pm, SEVEN – A Documentary Play, is being hosted by Neighborhood Congregational Church Outreach in Laguna Beach. Seven is a groundbreaking work of documentary theater that captures the remarkable lives of a diverse and courageous group of global women leaders. We are grateful to the organizers at NCC; they have graciously offered to donate 50% of the proceeds to Living Ubuntu. Come out and support, if you can.

“Riveting, explosive, and inspiring drama…starkly emotive…reaffirm[s] the belief that one person could indeed make a difference.”
— Huffington Post

(Read more about SEVEN)

And, for those of you who recently heard Gene Baur speak and are now interested in visiting Farm Sanctuary, we will be headed out there on Sunday May 21st. Space is limited. If you are interested, email: info@livingubuntu.org.

See you Saturday?

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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