Find people who regulate you well and stay near them (June 2018 events)

Adults remain social animals: they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. …in some important ways people cannot be stable on their own.…
Total self-sufficiency turns out to be a daydream….
Stability means finding people who regulate you well and staying near them.
– Charney et al

Hi everyone,

What are you doing on Saturday, June 16? A bunch of us are taking a day trip to visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton. If you have never been there, it is a wonderful place, so you might want to come with us.

We filled up super fast for the number of spots we reserved on the tour. If you want to come, but did not register on Eventbrite yet, let us know by adding your name to the Eventbrite Wait List. We will do our best to accommodate everyone, but that means, we need you to let us know you want to be there. Do not hesitate, carpool arrangements will be getting finalized at the end of this week. So the time to tell us you want ‘in’ is now (or very soon).

June has many additional interesting things happening, so scroll down for a few more Upcoming Community Events.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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SoCal VegFest: Plant Fest (or on Facebook) — free!
Saturday June 2 & Sunday June 3, 10:00a.m. – 3:00p.m. each day

Neighborhood Congregational Church: “World Peace & Justice Weekend – A Two Day Oasis of Compassion
Saturday June 9 & Sunday June 10
Laguna Beach
* Audrey Waight, Art Trey Carlisle & Barbara English will present: “Healing the Disconnect: Caring for the Earth as a Whole” on Saturday afternoon

Living Ubuntu: “Field Trip from Orange County to Visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton
Saturday, June 16, 10:00 a.m. – 6:00p.m.

Animal Rights National Conference
Thursday June 28 – Sunday July 1
Los Angeles
* Gene Baur, Synthian Sharp & Barbara English will present: “So Give Me An F” on Friday morning

“So Give Me An F” | Trip to Farm Sanctuary June 16, 2018

Hi everyone,

In July 2015, the OC Register featured an article about Bruno Barba, a Fullerton Joint Union High School student enrolled in FFA (Future Farmers of America) who found a home for his “project” Lola-Pig at Farm Sanctuary.
Bruno resisted the “it’s what we do” conventionality that all of his peers followed, i.e. choosing life for Lola instead of slaughter. While some might consider him to be an upstander or hero, a rare high school student exercising critical thinking in order to make his own “best” or “right” decision, what was his instructor’s response? “We definitely don’t encourage it.”

Reading the article in 2015 was the first time I became aware that we had these programs in the local area. At face value it just seemed like a really bad idea: bad for humans, bad for non-humans, bad for planet earth. How could we possibly be asking children to raise and bond with animals then send them off to slaughter for financial profit? At a time of well-known looming eco-catastrophe globally, why the adherence to such an old-school model, and who is benefiting from keeping it going? Not to mention the animals themselves living in a cleaned up version of factory farming, deemed commodities, and killed at the end of the semester? All for academic credit?

After a conversation with Gene Baur (Co-founder of Farm Sanctuary), I decided to learn more about this type of agricultural curriculum being taught in the public school system. I met with Bruno and his mom, Dulce, as well as others. The more I learned, the more I felt deeply creepy-disturbed, and the more I realized I was not alone in my prior ignorance. These issues desperately needed and still need exposure. In 2016, Living Ubuntu started working with Synthian Sharp and commenced filming. Two years later, we are in the final stages of film editing. We intend to release “So Give Me An F” as a feature length documentary film later this year.

I am very happy to announce that Gene Baur, Synthian Sharp, and I will be discussing “So Give Me An F” (and screening a *new* sneak-peak clip from the film) at the upcoming Animal Rights National Conference in Los Angeles, June 28 – July 1 (early registration ends May 7).
Consider joining us at the conference.

We need your support.
We need to launch a web site for the film, create promotional materials to help get the word out, pay for film festival entrance fees, and distribution costs.

Your financial contribution would be greatly appreciated donate here.

Also, on Saturday, June 16, we will be taking a day trip, car pooling from Orange County, to visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton.
For full event details, please see Eventbrite and sign up there if you want to join us. FYI: space is limited and has been filling up very quickly.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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Carl Wilkens (4/25/18), TRE (4/28/18), and a trip to Farm Sanctuary – join us?

interspecies-frands1Differences are not intended to separate, to alienate.
We are different precisely in order to realize our need of one another.
– Desmond Tutu

Hi everyone,

The April events have been great so far, especially, “Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences“. We have received a lot of incredibly positive feedback about the event and several have expressed their desire for it to become something we do annually. We invite you to join our planning team as we take some time to reflect on that idea and ponder the possibilities. Meanwhile, we have two more events this month.

First, a gentle reminder:
An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion, Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm-9:30pm.

April included many topics that are emotionally challenging. It felt important to end the month with an opportunity to come together and ‘release’. Please join us for:
Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE®): Connection, Compassion & Community, Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm.
FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | EVENT DETAILS & REGISTRATION. (All are welcome: first-timers and those who have already learned.)

Some of you joined us last May when we visited Farm Sanctuary. We had a great time that day! Since Gene Baur, Co-founder of Farm Sanctuary, was recently here speaking at two of our local events, we wanted to invite you to join us as we visit Farm Sanctuary in Acton again this year, on a weekend, possibly in early June, date: TBD. We will leave mid-morning from Orange County in a carpool, arrive in Acton mid-day, picnic on the grounds with BYO vegan lunch, then take a private Farm Sanctuary tour ($10 to FS per person). Would you like to come with us? Send an email to: and we will make sure to include you.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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Sat May 6, 2017: “The Milk Myth” & “SEVEN”


Hi everyone,

Last week was amazing! Thank you so much to all who came out for any or all of the events, Socially Accepted Practices & Traumatic Impact on Adolescents’ Development, The 11th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference, and Crises in the Ocean: How Compassionate Action Benefits Us All (w/ People’s Climate March). Additional gratitude to the incredible speakers, volunteers and organizations that helped to make all three events possible, highly successful and well-attended.

So, what’s next?

This coming Saturday, May 6, 10:00am – 12:00pm, come join Plant Powered OC at the Whole Foods in Brea for The Milk Myth & Non-Dairy Food Sampling! In honor of May as the month of Mother’s, we will be re-thinking our relationship with milk. Plant-Based Nutrition Advisor, Gina Bonanno-Lemos, will help us understand the research that begs to differ with the dairy industry slogans, such as “Milk Does a Body Good” and the myth of ‘happy cows’. Along with some serous learning, this event is going to be super-fun! We will be sampling plant-based milks, cheeses and ice cream. For those who want to learn more about how to transition to eating more plants, here is your opportunity to taste before you buy, and learn about the differing health benefits all at the same time. Admission is free. Space is limited. Register here.

Also on Saturday, May 6, 7:00pm, SEVEN – A Documentary Play, is being hosted by Neighborhood Congregational Church Outreach in Laguna Beach. Seven is a groundbreaking work of documentary theater that captures the remarkable lives of a diverse and courageous group of global women leaders. We are grateful to the organizers at NCC; they have graciously offered to donate 50% of the proceeds to Living Ubuntu. Come out and support, if you can.

“Riveting, explosive, and inspiring drama…starkly emotive…reaffirm[s] the belief that one person could indeed make a difference.”
— Huffington Post

(Read more about SEVEN)

And, for those of you who recently heard Gene Baur speak and are now interested in visiting Farm Sanctuary, we will be headed out there on Sunday May 21st. Space is limited. If you are interested, email:

See you Saturday?

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
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These systems are failing | April 12, 2017 – Moby, Gene Baur, Allison Argo, The Last Pig


Moby: Are You Lost in the World Like Me?

Hi everyone,

Devoted followers of Moby might have noticed that he stopped touring and has committed much of his time to Animal Rights. Additionally, he has been quite outspoken on the environment and our current political situation. One of his recent music videos was nominated for a Webby Award. Beyond the animation, his message names something many of us recognize: “These systems are failing.” How many of us are struggling to come to terms with a deep sense of alienation amidst countless profound uncertainties, challenges, atrocities, injustices and insecurities in this world? Through his music, Moby asks us, “Are You Lost in the World Like Me?

Next Wednesday, April 12, Moby will be making a very rare appearance in Orange County, joined by Gene Baur of Farm Sanctuary, and filmmaker, Allison Argo — plus a screening of her latest documentary, The Last Pig. This is going to be a truly amazing event!

Please join us for Critical Conversations at Soka – Vegan Meat-Up with Moby, A Safe Space for the Curious Carnivore — buy tickets here.

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We need empathy to come back to life | Pre-registration for Earth Day events through Wed Apr 20

Hi everyone,

International Trauma Expert Dr. David Berceli wasn’t able to accept the invitation to speak at the 10th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference on Friday, April 22. Instead, he create a video. We felt it was a very important message about how the inner process facilitates outer paradigm shifts, so we have chosen to circulate it in advance of the conference rather than within it. You can view it here.

Since our defense mechanisms are designed to help us cope and feel less pain, we can be grateful that they work so well when we need them – and – sometimes their effectiveness works against us, especially when we get stuck in defensive patterns needlessly. In a defended state we lose the sense of being part of the whole, and too often harm our self and surroundings without perceiving the consequences of our actions. We lose sight that living life while numb isn’t really living life. Many of today’s problems can be attributed to this pervasive disconnect. It is really getting us into trouble.

When we have unplugged from our own inner state, we lose access to self-reflection and no longer experience our rhythmic, pulsating existence as part of the alive natural world we live within. We lose the perception of this earth as a self-regulating living organism that we are part of. We fail to experience that our planet cannot self-regulate well enough to compensate for how extensively we have interfered with its natural rhythm causing it to head toward a state of organismic chaos instead of life-supporting coherence. Within the disconnect, we lose some of the ability to step into someone else’s shoes, and that empathy, in a healthy state, has application regardless of species.

We need empathy to come back to life. We need empathy to reveal compassionate living. And we need each other to do what needs to be done in this life. We need to come together. There is too much at stake to ignore the crisis and the urgent need to change the paradigm for how we live life on this planet.

Please make time to join us for the Earth Day events listed below. I know you are busy, that is part of what is keeping us traumatized in this society. We are all too busy. We live with chronic overwhelm. Yet, this is an opportunity to participate in bringing about critical changes in this world. So, I am asking you to please make time to be there. It is important.

Online registration for both events ends Wednesday evening, April 20.

Nicole Jafari has generously offered her beautiful Anaheim Hills home for a Fundraiser Brunch and Silent Auction for Farm Sanctuary (with Gene Baur) on Sunday, April 24, 11am – 2pm. For complete details, send me an email: info I hope you will come join us that day also and offer your support to the remarkable work Farm Sanctuary is doing. Continue reading

Wisdom figures are hard to come by | Gene Baur at Soka April 23, 2016

Hi everyone,

There is a short list of people that I have personally met that have dramatically changed the way I see the world and the path I choose to walk in this life. One of those I speak of often is the international trauma expert, Dr. David Berceli. Back in 2004, it resonated deeply when I first heard him speak of trauma as our invitation to evolve as a species with its resolution supporting our growth toward wisdom.

When we do not feel safe, we contract, resulting in increased fear, competition, resentment, reactivity, and anger. When safety is sufficient to allow for trauma recovery and great self-reflection on life’s hardships, we do not go back to the way we used to be, we go forward, forever changed for the better by our experiences. In the best case scenario, our sense of empathy and compassion expand as part of a much bigger, broader worldview. We move from the tightly contracted limitations of a self-centered worldview of “me” into the species-preserving benevolence of pursuing the common good in a worldview of “we”.

In 2015, I had the extremely good fortune to meet yet one more of these rare individuals who have met with significant adversity, and come out on the other side with increased wisdom and compassion. That individual is Gene Baur, the Co-founder and President of Farm Sanctuary. Bearing witness to animal cruelty for three decades would cause many to get utterly stuck in cynicism and bitterness, yet, Gene has managed to remain inspirationally optimistic, while embodying groundedness. After 30 years, he carries an amazing amount of knowledge; beyond that, he carries his life experience with grace. His organization seeks “Compassion for All” and gently reminds us that animals are “Someone not Something”.

Wisdom figures are hard to come by in this world. For me, that fosters a profound sense of gratitude when I meet one. Continue reading

Updates for tomorrow, October 14 (Climate Rally & Gene Baur talk)

Hi everyone,

Here are a few updates for the two events tomorrow, Wednesday, October 14th in Orange.

Tomorrow, at noon, we will gather at the Orange Circle for a Climate Rally in support of People’s Climate Movement’s call for a day of national action. We will have rally signs at the event, or feel free to bring your own. Please keep the messages civil and about climate action only. Plan to arrive early to find street or public lot parking and arrive inside the circle by 11:45a so we can start the rally promptly at noon. Please come if you can, we need to demonstrate as much public support for bold, fast, effective action on these issues as possible. All details and RSVP are on the web site: Climate Action Rally at Orange Traffic Circle.

Tomorrow, at 7:00pm, come join us for A Special Evening with Gene Baur: Living the Farm Sanctuary Life. Please make sure to RSVP on the web site. We reached capacity last week, started a waiting list, then got the extremely good news yesterday that Chapman University had found a larger venue for this event. That means, yes, you can still RSVP to attend — we have room for you! And, it also means, please take note of the venue change and parking info on the event site.

Also — several nearby restaurants have agreed to help publicize these events and offer one or many vegan options on October 14th. So, consider lunch after the rally, or an early dinner before the Gene Baur event at one of these restaurants. Ask them about the vegan option(s). Both event sites (above) list participating restaurants.
Thank you for staying engaged,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE Trainer
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“…widening our circle of compassion…” (and new TRE group starts tomorrow)

A human being is a part of a whole… [but] he experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest…. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. – Albert Einstein

Hi everyone,

Last Thursday, Orange County for Climate Action (OCCA) had a great turn-out for, “A Conversation with Craig Preston: Solutions to Climate Change”. (See more about CCL’s Carbon Fee & Dividend plan here.) Then on Sunday, we had a lot of fun (amidst the seriousness of the topic) on our visit to the Southern California location of Farm Sanctuary. You can see the photos here. I had no idea how crazy-big the pigs would be, not to mention how ridiculously tall the full grown male steers were – wow! A little intimidating until you find out they are just as friendly and affection-seeking as a cat or dog. Continue reading