Carl Wilkens in Fullerton April 25, 2018 (GWC Peace Conference tomorrow)

wilkens_hero“…we’ve got to recognize in each one of us, there’s such a potential for good and there’s such a potential for evil…”
 – Carl Wilkens

Hi everyone,

I will never forget the first time I watched the 2004 PBS Frontline documentary, “Ghosts of Rwanda“. Among the many horrific heartbreaking and gut-wrenching stories, listening to Carl Wilkens was incredibly inspirational. A missionary living in Rwanda before the genocide, he got his family to safety when danger became obvious, and then was the only American that chose to stay in Rwanda throughout the genocide. In 2009 I had the great privilege of participating in the Carl Wilkens Fellowship inaugural class and this gave me the great pleasure of meeting and getting to know Carl. Many lives were saved due to his compassionate and courageous decision to stay. A few years ago, one of my Facebook friends in Rwanda, someone I had never met in person, sent me a message after seeing me post something about Carl. The Facebook friend said, “He saved my life!” and I asked to hear the story that wound up giving me chills. I found out he was one of 200 hundred children in a Rwanda orphanage, surrounded by genocidaires armed with machetes, moments from being attacked and slaughtered. It was only by Carl’s quick thinking that they were saved. If you do not know this story, it is one of many worth hearing from Carl directly. Watch the video excerpt.
 
Please join us for An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm. Admission is free. Register on Eventbrite.

Also, the vegan & zero waste GWC Peace Conference is tomorrow. See details below. Living Ubuntu will be tabling so please come visit us. (In fact, I have not found a volunteer to help tend the table with me yet. Anyone interested?)

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole
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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference – tomorrow!
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Irvine

 

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An Intersectional April (2018) – Come join us for these six events

tendril1Intersectionality:
… attempts to identify how interlocking systems of power impact those who are most marginalized in society.
– Wikipedia

Hi everyone,

Have you seen the trailer for the Ai Weiwei film Human Flow? Growing hardened to the suffering of others endangers us all. We chose this film in collaboration with the Golden West College Peace Studies Program as an optimal pre-conference event for their 12th Annual GWC Peace Conference, “Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions” Friday April 20, and Living Ubuntu’sConnecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences”Sunday April 15. “Human Flow” will screen on Thursday April 12 (free admission | vegan refreshments).

Additionally, for anyone not yet familiar with who Gene Baur is, it’s time to get there. Watch this clip from when he was on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart. We are very excited to feature Gene in Orange County TWICE this month. The context for his talk will be distinctly different at Fullerton College on Friday April 13 vs as part of the amazing intersectional April 15 Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, where many inspiring, thought-provoking speakers will be featured. (i.e. you might want to come to both.)

As if that is not enough, Carl Wilkens, the only American who chose to stay throughout the 1994 Rwanda genocide will be talking about Respect-Empathy-Inclusion (REI) at Fullerton College on Wednesday, April 25. He was highlighted in the PBS Frontline documentary, Ghosts of Rwanda, view a clip here.
To close out the month, Intro to Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises: Connection, Compassion and Community is back. Join us Saturday April 28 for this free event with vegan refreshments.

There is limited space at these events. Please make sure to register. To find all six events all in one place: Living Ubuntu Events.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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Watch 60 Minutes Sunday (March 11) | April 2018 calendar of events

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Hi everyone,

This coming Sunday on 60 Minutes, Oprah Winfrey will be featured interviewing the amazing national childhood trauma expert, Dr. Bruce Perry. See the preview here. If you are not familiar yet with the study done two decades ago linking Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEstoohigh, ACEsconnection) to both emotional difficulties and physical illness, with the long-term wise, informed voice of Dr. Bruce Perry, and with the national movement within various jurisdictions and institutions to become trauma-informed, please make sure you watch the interview.

And if by chance, you are someone devoted to activism, appalled by today’s political ‘climate’ – last November, the Washington Post published, “At Yale, we conducted an experiment to turn conservatives into liberals. The results say a lot about our political divisions.Please read it here.

We need to understand that traumatization changes the inner state and subjective sense of the world. It can both deaden us so that we do not fear the thing we should, and cause us to feel threatened by the thing that is actually benign (e.g. sometimes that “rattle snake” on the hiking trail is actually just a stick).

Calm the fears and the political discourse will shift. To calm the fears, heal the trauma.

We have many events coming up in April. Please check out the calendar of events at the bottom of this email.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event) — save the date!
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences tickets on sale now!
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion (REI)
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm
Irvine

Upcoming Events – 7 items in March (2017) – come join us!

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Hi everyone,

I have seven things to tell you about, all taking place in March. Ready? Here we go! Below please find our Upcoming Events for the remainder of the month. Hope to see you often.

Orange County for Climate Action Meeting
Tuesday, March 7, 6:30p – 8:00p – tonight!

Carl Wilkens at Soka University
(Ikeda Reading Room), 1 University Dr, Aliso Viejo CA 92656 (Read More About Carl)
Monday, March 13, 6:00pm – 8:00pm

TRE Group Shake

Thursday, March 16, 4:00pm – 5:00pm

Legacy of Learning – Establishing Equity in the Aftermath of Trauma
, Part 3: A Screening of “In Utero” plus featured guest, Rebecca Amis, co-founder of MUSE School
Thursday, March 16, 6:30pm – 9:30pm

32nd Annual Great American Write-In
(visit the Living Ubuntu & OCCA table)
Saturday, March 18, 9:30am – 1:30pm

Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE)
Wednesday, March 22, 7:00pm – 9:00pm

A Screening of Before the Flood

Friday, March 24, 7:00pm – 9:30pm

In the spirit of Ubuntu,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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Please support Living Ubuntu — tomorrow is the last day for 2015 tax-deductible gifts

I think there’s a mythology that if you want to change the world, you have to be sainted, like Mother Teresa or Nelson Mandela or Archbishop Desmond Tutu. Ordinary people with lives that go up and down and around in circles can still contribute to change.

 – Jody Williams

Hi everyone,

We are coming to the end of a year where Syrian refugees have been demonized, those from African countries utterly forgotten, fear of terrorism ruled the day amid unchecked domestic gun violence, phrases like “Black Lives Matter” astoundingly still stir controversy, more than nine billion land animals died in the U.S. to produce meat, dairy, and eggs — and — the ‘best-ever’ global climate deal is a gross mismatch of goals and substantive approach. What’s next?

Human beings are generally homeostatic creatures. It sometimes takes crisis or desperation to stir us. The good news is, that is often our very best opportunity to seek and accomplish something better.

I reflect time and again on the words spoken by some of the much needed wise leaders of our time who hold vision for what ‘better’ might look like, and how we get there:

Naomi Klein speaks of climate change as the ultimate call-to-action-game-changer that gives us a chance, in fact, insists that we see the world and how we operate within it from a totally new and dramatically different paradigm, i.e. “This Changes Everything.”

David Berceli speaks of global trauma as our invitation to evolve, “…into a more ethical, moral and caring species.”

Gene Baur speaks of our food choices as the opportunity to reduce suffering by pausing to ask ourselves, “What would be the kind thing to do?”

Carl Wilkens speaks of the need to “…recognize in each one of us, there’s such a potential for good and there’s such a potential for evil.”

Daniel Siegel speaks of how we are all in this together: “To make this world different we have to realize that the self is plural, it’s an absolute delusion that’s killing the planet to think that the self is separate.”

In the coming year, may we all find ways, more so than ever before, to reaffirm, embody and express our shared connection to goodness.

On a final note, tomorrow is the last day for year-end donations to count as tax deductible for 2015. We really need your generous support to be able to keep going. Please consider giving to Living Ubuntu. Contributions of any size will be received with much gratitude. DONATE HERE.

Happy New Year :)

Thank you for staying engaged,

Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
livingubuntu.org
(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings

Dick Cheney, one of many traumatized leaders?

Hi everyone,

Former Vice President Dick Cheney has been in the news recently due to a book release. The resulting focus has been on his legacy, his many heart procedures, some while in office, and the possibility of impaired judgement as a result. What isn’t being talked about is an additional relevant question: did Cheney have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder? Have any of you read the book, “The Dark Side: The Inside Story of How the War on Terror Turned into a War on American Ideals,” by Jane Mayer? First sentence:

If anyone in America should have been prepared to respond to the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, it ought to have been Vice President Dick Cheney.

A few pages later:

“Cheney was traumatized by 9/11. The poor guy became paranoid.” … “He thought that perfect security was achievable…. He was willing to corrupt the whole country to save it.”

The trouble with a traumatized society is it has trouble recognizing itself as such. Additionally, it fails to perceive when decisions being made at the top are likewise being driven by a traumatized mindset. Continue reading

Carl Wilkens, “he is a hero and savior to me”

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Hi everyone,

In 2004, noting the 10 year anniversary of the Rwanda genocide, PBS Frontline released, Ghosts of Rwanda. To this day I continue to feel it is one of the most exceptional documentaries I have ever seen, despite the fact that it is deeply disturbing to watch. This film was my first introduction to Carl Wilkens. Within the film’s horror, scenes featuring Carl are where the filmmakers remind us of our shared humanity and what a mixed deal that is. It is Carl that gives the viewer hope.

I posted a little clip from Ghosts of Rwanda recently on my Facebook page.


Already deeply moved from reviewing the film scene, I wasn’t at all prepared for what happened next. One of my Facebook friends lives in Rwanda and I knew he knows Carl, but I didn’t know the context. He saw the video clip about Carl on my page, and wrote to me how happy he was that Carl was arriving in Rwanda that week so he would be seeing him in person. We wrote back and forth a bit, and then he asked me, like in a oh-by-the-way-did-I-ever-mention tone, did I tell you I was in the orphanage he saved?

Continue reading