April 15 (2018), Connecting the Dots — time to get your tickets

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The human race is challenged more than ever before to demonstrate our mastery, not over nature but of ourselves.
— Rachel Carson
Hi everyone,

There is a better path. To find it, we must first recognize the path we are on and its inadequacies.

Call it what you wish, our collective trauma, brokenness, woundedness… pulls us to self-absorption and unplugs our holistic mind. Rightly so. When we perceive a threat, self-survival is top priority. This is exactly what a fight-flight survival defense mechanism that got us evolved this far is supposed to do.

If you encountered the term, species-preservation, given that we are currently on a trajectory to mass extinction, you might think it refers to an environmental conservation effort for endangered wildlife. Yet, two decades ago, in a published journal article on PTSD, Sheila Wang referenced it as a human mindset about other humans. It is what we lose access to when we feel threatened. The fight-flight activation unplugs us from the affiliative sense of being part of the whole. It gets replaced by self-preservation only.

Dr. Bruce Perry is famous for saying, states become traits. A defense mechanism designed for occasional use, to save our life in extreme situations, has become a normalized way of life for far too many of us.

As we look around and see the acculturation of hierarchy, oppression, and pathological narcissism, it points to our loss of healthy state of mind, and it is killing us.

We are not just ‘born this way’. We are not a world full of ‘bad seeds’. We are the product of life experiences across the generations. Within the healing of the collective, a foundational connection to goodness is affirmed and strengthened. At the intersection of our varied forms of oppression, there lies the key to transformation and increased compassion.

There is a better path and we must find it together.

We are hosting what we think will be an extremely powerful, interactive, intersectional, and engaging program. Our featured speakers include Gene Baur, Claire Kim and Katie-Jay Scott. We have assembled many additional speakers from the local area speaking from first hand experiences. While many serious topics will be presented, we will also have some fun and are starting the day by having a meal together.

Please join us for:
CONNECTING THE DOTS: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, (Sunday, April 15, 12p-5p) —
DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

Scroll down for UPCOMING EVENTS.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

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:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event)
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Gene Baur: Increasing Compassion, Sustainability & Equity in our Food System
Friday, April 13, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Irvine

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GENE BAUR * CLAIRE KIM * KATIE-JAY SCOTT * JONI MARIE NEWMAN

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plus:
Arthur Trey Carlisle * Jose Trinidad Castenada * Barbara English * Michele Martinez * Amina Mohamed * Piper Sample * Audrey Waight

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Watch 60 Minutes Sunday (March 11) | April 2018 calendar of events

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Hi everyone,

This coming Sunday on 60 Minutes, Oprah Winfrey will be featured interviewing the amazing national childhood trauma expert, Dr. Bruce Perry. See the preview here. If you are not familiar yet with the study done two decades ago linking Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEstoohigh, ACEsconnection) to both emotional difficulties and physical illness, with the long-term wise, informed voice of Dr. Bruce Perry, and with the national movement within various jurisdictions and institutions to become trauma-informed, please make sure you watch the interview.

And if by chance, you are someone devoted to activism, appalled by today’s political ‘climate’ – last November, the Washington Post published, “At Yale, we conducted an experiment to turn conservatives into liberals. The results say a lot about our political divisions.Please read it here.

We need to understand that traumatization changes the inner state and subjective sense of the world. It can both deaden us so that we do not fear the thing we should, and cause us to feel threatened by the thing that is actually benign (e.g. sometimes that “rattle snake” on the hiking trail is actually just a stick).

Calm the fears and the political discourse will shift. To calm the fears, heal the trauma.

We have many events coming up in April. Please check out the calendar of events at the bottom of this email.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org
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living vegan (facebook)

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[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole.

:::UPCOMING EVENTS:::

A Screening of “Human Flow” – GWC Peace Studies Program (a pre-conference event) — save the date!
Thursday, April 12, 6:00pm – 9:30pm
Huntington Beach

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences tickets on sale now!
Sunday, April 15, 12:00pm – 5:00pm
Santa Ana

Peace and the Global Economy: Emerging Issues & Practical Solutions – 12th Annual Golden West College Peace Conference
Friday, April 20, 8:30pm – 5:00pm
Huntington Beach

An Evening with Carl Wilkens: Beyond Genocide, Respect-Empathy-Inclusion (REI)
Wednesday, April 25, 7:30pm – 9:30pm
Fullerton

Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community
Saturday, April 28, 6:00pm – 9:00pm
Irvine

Connecting the Dots: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences (Sunday, April 15, 2018)

5757686065_7c1b9c666a_z“The lamps are different, but the light is the same.”  – Rumi
Hi everyone,

Within Ubuntu, Desmond Tutu tells us that we have the “proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed….”

Unlike a worldview based in belonging, the wound that disconnects perceives “Other”. We need not look far in today’s world and historically to find that those who lack institutional power are often commodified and subjugated to the insidious, authoritarian, patriarchal dominance of hierarchal oppression. In contrast to self-assurance, many feel threatened. Some are terrified. And we are all diminished when this occurs.

At this critical point in time when there is so much at stake, it is imperative that we rapidly, significantly, and authentically change the narrative. This will require that we go deeper inside ourselves and with each other. We must identify and “own up to” where we have fallen short, normalize kindness, and learn “repair” to come back into healthy states of connection after inevitable breaches have occurred. This is the essential opportunity to expand our point of view in recognition of the necessary interdependence that is Gaia, the interconnectedness of the all, the whole of life that sustains us, that we in turn sustain as part of it.

When the conventionality we have been indoctrinated into has grown destructive and obsolete, it is time for transformation.


Please join us for:

CONNECTING THE DOTS: Finding Compassion Despite Our Differences, (Sunday, April 15, 12p-5p)
DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org
| facebook | donate »

living vegan (facebook)

(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole.

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An Evening w John Hall, Kindness Amidst Chaos, Stories from Lesvos (February 9, 2018) — CANCELLED

Hi everyone,

An Evening with John Hall, Kindness Amidst Chaos, Stories from Lesvos was scheduled to take place this coming Friday evening. Due to unforeseen circumstances, John is not able to be with us on February 9. Most unfortunately the event has been cancelled.

We will reschedule with John hopefully very soon as the topic is extremely important. As soon as we know when that is going to be we will let you know. Our apologies for any inconvenience.

Meanwhile, please save this date: Sunday, April 15 (12p – 5p). We are planning to take the conversation deeper with a very special event at the Delhi Center in Santa Ana. This highly intersectional and experiential discussion will focus on transforming our prejudices into increased sustainability and compassion, and will feature Gene Baur (Farm Sanctuary), Claire Kim (UCI Poli Sci), Katie-Jay Stauring (i-ACT), Kiel Majewski (Carl Wilkens Fellowship) and Joni Marie Newman (Just the Food).

BTW: Would you like to volunteer with Living Ubuntu? We are looking for a few more who might want to join our volunteer team to help us plan for April 15 and other events and advocacy efforts coming up soon. If you want to jump in with us, just send an email to: info@livingubuntu.org.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org
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living vegan (facebook)

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[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole.

“…in dire need of creative extremists” | (2018) January 13: Intro to TRE, February 9: An Evening w/ John Hall

2694622249_040ae7c00eThe question is not whether we will be extremists, but what kind of extremists we will be…
The nation and the world are in dire need of creative extremists.
 – Martin Luther King Jr.

Hi everyone,

Just how severe and life-threatening do life circumstances have to be for someone to choose to jump into a small overcrowded raft to cross a turbulent, unforgiving ocean because it looks like the better option? How many make this choice and do they survive? What happens when they do?

Last summer, John Hall, Director of the International Law Program at Chapman University, spent his ‘vacation’ volunteering on the Greek island, Lesvos, helping the many desperate people arriving in rafts to reach safety.

I know John to be a man of great knowledge, experience and wisdom. Beyond that he is a pleasure to be with, full of warmth, and an engaging, heartfelt story-teller. I am very excited that we have created an opportunity for him to tell us about his experiences last summer, plus, help us understand more about what is creating the desperation and what can be done to alleviate it.

Please join us for “An Evening with John Hall: Kindness Amid Chaos, Stories from Lesvos” — Friday, February 9, 7:00pm – 9:00pm.
FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

Also, we have just a few more spaces for:
Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE®): Connection, Compassion & Community, Saturday, January 13, 6:00pm – 9:00pm
FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | DETAILS & REGISTRATION. (All are welcome: first-timers and those who have already learned.)

This year, Living Ubuntu will operate according to a ‘gift economy’ as much as possible, offering free admission whenever we can.
If you value our work and have the means and inclination to financially contribute, please do, recognizing that others might not be able to.

We are grateful for your generosity.
Donate.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer

Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu

livingubuntu.org
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living vegan (facebook)

(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole.

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In the spirit of Ubuntu we ‘share what we have’.
Join us for an Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE
®) plus a time to connect, re-connect and re-affirm living life compassionately.

Saturday January 13, 2017, 6:00pm – 9:00pm
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Finding our way to back to wholeness | Jan 13 (2017) Intro to TRE: Connection, Community & Compassion

boss-fight-free-high-quality-stock-images-photos-photography-pathway-forestJN: So, as a society and as individuals, what is the way back to wholeness?

GM: It’s impossible under capitalism, because the essence of capitalism is to separate the mind from the body. And, basically, people are all considered material goods. People matter only insofar as they produce, consume, or own matter. If you don’t produce, consume, or own matter, then you don’t matter in this society. We have to recognize the severely prohibitive limitations along with the great achievements of this particular way of life. It’s not a matter of providing some utopian prescription.

On a personal level, it’s a matter of deep self-work. One thing we’ve done now is we’ve had a lot of brilliant, necessary research about what trauma is and how it shows up in the form of physical and mental illness and alienation and disconnection from other people and from yourself. And a lot of work has been done on the reversal of trauma and the healing of it—and also on the prevention of it. But, again, we are not applying that knowledge.

– Dr. Gabor Maté
(Read the entire interview: Why Are So Many Adults Today Haunted by Trauma?)

Hi everyone,

What are your thoughts, feelings and reflections as 2017 comes to an end? Despite the innate goodness interwoven with being alive on this earth, I don’t think anyone I know would dispute that this year has been beyond ‘difficult’… in so many ways… and on so many levels.

Aware of the urgencies, from the start of the year, Living Ubuntu jumped in with eagerness to meet as many needs as possible and meaningfully engage on a variety of topics. We collaborated often with others to add diversity to our message and broaden our outreach. We successfully organized, co-organized or participated in more than 20 educational, advocacy-oriented and healing events in 2017. You can find most of our 2017 events here.

Now we are looking ahead to the new year with much excitement. For the past 18 months we have been working on a documentary, “So Give Me An F.” We are very close to finishing our first rough cut of the film so expect to hear more about that very soon. (Yay!)

Meanwhile, since the Introduction to Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises event we hosted in December reached capacity plus wait list we wanted to start the new year by offering it again in January. Once again, like the description of Ubuntu, we seek to ‘share what we have‘.

Intro to TRE®: Connection, Compassion & Community, Saturday, January 13, 6:00pm – 9pm — FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

Your support of our work is essential and greatly appreciated. Please consider a year end one-time contribution or monthly donation to help us continue.
DONATE HERE
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May the New Year bring the wisdom we need to find our way back to wholeness.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
livingubuntu.org
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We live in extremely challenging times. What is challenging for one affects the whole.
In the spirit of Ubuntu we ‘share what we have’.
Join us for an Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) plus a time to connect, re-connect and re-affirm living life compassionately.

Saturday January 13, 2017, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Irvine Ranch Water District Community Room, 15500 Sand Canyon Avenue, Irvine, CA 92618

FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS
EVENT DETAILS & REGISTRATION

The Irvine Ranch Water District neither supports nor endorses the cause or activities of organizations which use the District’s facilities. The facilities are made available as a public service.

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Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community (December 6, 2017, Irvine, CA)

You share what you have. It is to say, ‘My humanity is caught up, is inextricably bound up, in what is yours.’… We say, ‘A person is a person through other persons.’
– Desmond Tutu (on what Ubuntu is)

Hi everyone,

2017 has been a very challenging year for many people – how has it been for you?

Recently, I had the great pleasure of listening to Dr. Gabor Mate in person for the first time. This morning on Facebook, I was delighted to see, “This Surprising Factor Can Make People 4600 Percent More Prone To Addiction: We know the major reason why addiction is transmitted through families – and it is not what most of us think.” (Read it here.)

An ultra-quick oversimplification of what Gabor Mate talks about is that we are all addicts; some use drugs. Instead of asking, ‘why the addiction?‘ ask, ‘why the pain? At the root, historical and childhood trauma lurk as culprits, often unacknowledged. Present day life situations contribute additional suffering. Addiction to work, activism, chronic busyness, alcohol, other drugs, food, sex, shopping, exercise, social media and more are at epidemic proportions and reflect a desperate collective attempt to escape the pain. Healing addiction requires connection… healthy, enjoyable, loving connection. A host of societal ills could be remedied by adopting and addressing this reality.

As much as we long for a good night’s sleep, and the pleasure and benefit of genuine connection, both are dependent upon feeling a subjective sense of safety. When life has been full of stressful challenges, early on or recent, we might not be able to be as emotionally present with one another as we would like to be. We might not be able to fully let down even at day’s end to rest and recover. One of the most effective ways to calm an over-stimulated nervous system is to make use of the body’s own natural recovery system.

Living Ubuntu wants to ‘share what we have‘ and invite you to join us for one last event in 2017, an Introduction to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE®). In addition to learning this method that helps relax the muscles and calm the nervous system after stress or trauma, we want you to join us for a time to connect, re-connect and re-affirm living life compassionately.

Intro to TRE®: Connection, Compassion & Community, Wednesday, December 6, 6:30pm – 9pm — FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS | DETAILS & REGISTRATION.

In the spirit of Ubuntu,
Barbara English, LMFT, CBT, TRE® Certification Trainer
Co-founder and Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
livingubuntu.org
| facebook | donate »
living vegan (facebook)

(949) 891-2005

[Ubuntu] n. We belong to the greater whole.

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Intro to TRE: Connection, Compassion & Community

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This year has been extremely challenging for many. What is challenging for one affects the whole.
In the spirit of Ubuntu we ‘share what we have’.
Join us for an Intro to Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) plus a time to connect, re-connect and re-affirm living life compassionately.

Wednesday, December 6, 2017, 6:30pm – 9:00pm

Irvine Ranch Water District Community Room, 15500 Sand Canyon Avenue, Irvine, CA 92618

FREE ADMISSION | VEGAN REFRESHMENTS

EVENT DETAILS & REGISTRATION


The Irvine Ranch Water District neither supports nor endorses the cause or activities of organizations which use the District’s facilities. The facilities are made available as a public service.

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