The most common, and often deadly, form of human unconsciousness is the perennial confusion of inside and outside. We think we perceive something in the outside world when actually it is a projection of inner content. The result could be stalking, scapegoating, genocide or the billion he said/she said arguments going on any time of the day or night. Unless we are taking the contra naturum path of rigorous self-examination, we live in a state of continual projection.
– Jonathon Zap
For the longest time I have wanted to offer a workshop about, “Humanizing the Perpetrator”. Maybe at some point I will, yet, it’s not a very popular topic. The only time Living Ubuntu had to cancel a retreat due to lack of registration was in 2012 when we sought to offer: When We Become the Thing We Hate: How our trauma and unhealed wounds erode empathy, fuel fear, and create “others”.
When we see others as the enemy, we risk becoming what we hate. When we oppress others, we end up oppressing ourselves. All of our humanity is dependent upon recognizing the humanity in others.
– Desmond Tutu
I can’t tell you how much I wanted to do that retreat! I am passionate about these very challenging topics. I see them as essential aspects of individual and global healing, and Ubuntu: what dehumanizes you, inexorably dehumanizes me.
Thursday April 3, our third event in the April commemorative film series, will include the screening of “Enemies of the People”. In this exceptional film, the filmmaker sets out to interview the “killers”, those responsible for the Khmer Rouge atrocities. It is a highly personal story since the filmmaker’s parents were killed in the Cambodian genocide.
Please join us as we remember and turn our empathic, supportive attention to the victims, survivors, and their children, while at the same time, seek to humanize the perpetrators.
For info on all six events, film trailers, and to RSVP, see: Remembering the Past toward Healing our Future.
The events are free, but space is limited, so please RSVP on the web site.
Barbara English, LMFT
Founder & Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
[Ubuntu] n. Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings