Did anyone see Dr. Drew Pinsky on Erin Burnett OutFront on CNN this week? If not, make sure you watch the video clip below.
They were discussing a recent, tragic incident of extreme road rage, yet in a week where many are feeling disturbed by the government shutdown, it’s easy to find additional relevant applications.
Pinsky’s words brought a bit of relief and a spontaneous deep breath for me. Erin wanted to know about the road rage, in other words: “How does this happen?”
Dr. Drew talked about it as “a symptom of how unregulated we are“. He also said, “it’s all about how we raise our kids” and how “unregulated aggression is something we should really be thinking about“.
Our society’s lack of emotional regulation doesn’t often wind up in TV news discussions, let alone a reference to the root of the problem, i.e. “it’s all about how we raise our kids”, but it should.
Here’s the tricky part, adults who have trouble with self-regulation lack what is needed to raise children with that capacity. Frequently the culprit is chronic or traumatic stress, or their own unresolved difficult childhood experiences.
So… what are we going to do about it?
Barbara English, LMFT
Founder & Executive Director, Living Ubuntu
[Ubuntu] n. Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.