If the road to joy is through the surrender to the self — that is to one’s feelings — the first step in the therapeutic process is to sense and express one’s sadness…
To express that sadness, one needs to cry…
– Alexander Lowen
There is much to grieve in this life.
Yet we can’t actually go deep enough into our grief if we feel alone in it. Personally, I am a big fan of grieving and its necessary tears. I see it as having the power to restore us to fully living more than most anything else. We grieve when someone dies, a relationship ends, a dream is lost, as witness to global tragedy, and much more.
The most imprisoning commonplace block to grief I see is a child’s desperate attempt to hold on to a misguided image of who their parents are. Many of these children are actually adults. It can be so hard to really embrace what we needed as children that never came our way and accept that no matter what we do, it isn’t going to change. Parents that didn’t meet their child’s needs in their youth seldom make dramatic changes to respond differently later on. Without this deep acceptance of what has been lost to us, it is difficult to truly be free to love fully, with compassion for ourselves and each other.
Tears are not required at the Ubuntu group, but it is one of the few places I know of where they are invited, welcome, need no apology, and don’t have to be cried alone.
If you would like more information on how to join the Ubuntu group, please get in touch with us. : )
Hoping to be with you at the next one,
Friday, July 20 2012
6:30p – 9:30p
TRE starts promptly at 6:30p
Optional: bring veggie foods to share
We have been doing the Ubuntu group since the very beginning (2004). Held on the 3rd Friday of every month, it is a time to connect with one another in an authentic way about whatever is happening in life, to share from the deeper self, from our most known truth. For more information, visit http://livingubuntu.org/events or call (949) 891-2005.
Every human being truly becomes a human by means of relationships with other human beings.