The trouble with heartbreak

“There are many instances in which we are not the master’s of our fate. Yet our helplessness in these areas is tolerable because all human beings are in the same boat. And we need each other to counter the darkness, to keep out the cold, to provide meaning to existence. Human beings are social creatures. It is with other people that we find the warmth, the excitement, and the challenge of life. And only within the human community do we dare face the frightening unknown.”

– Alexander Lowen

Hi everyone,

I really want to talk to you about this upcoming workshop, you know, in a personal, intimate one on one type conversation, but there are just too many of you on this list for that to be a practical option, so I am writing this email. I can’t tell you how many times, even in just the past few months, I have heard stories from people that I know that are dealing with heartbreak. It’s just that most of the time, they don’t even seem to know it. I have seen some of you start to cry when you talk, others tighten their jaw to make sure nothing leaks out, but it shows in your eyes anyway. The sadness comes through. I have seen it many times. Maybe one of your parents is ill, or your relationship just broke up, or your kid is having a lot of trouble with something, or you are worried about local acts of hate, or have been overwhelmed by the recent images of starving infants in countries far away . . . the list just goes on and on. We are bombarded by so many distressing events and images in this life. Heartbreak is universal.

Now here’s the thing, being in touch with your own heart, and noticing its aching is just the starting point. So many people, just don’t want to deal with it, and I have to ask, is that you? Is that why you stay so incredibly busy all the time, so you won’t feel it? Is that why you devote yourself to helping others because it helps you to not notice your own pain?

It doesn’t have to be that way. Our culture is in denial and seems to support our defenses. Deep down so many of us are hurting. We have so much to offer each other in healing if only we are willing to become vulnerable enough to look into our selves, admit we could use some help, and allow someone to come close enough to begin to meet that need.

I hope you will take the risk, and come this Saturday, April 24th for Facing Disappointment: Heartbreak in your life, your community, your world. All details are on the website.


Barbara English
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

Facing Disappointment

Heartbreak in your life, your community, your world
Vincentia Schroeter, PhD

Facing Disappointment, workshop by Vincentia Schroeter

presented by

Living Ubuntu
Southern California Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis

Saturday, April 24 2010
9:00a – 12:00p

4010 Barranca Parkway, Ste. 253
Irvine, CA 92604

What does it mean when it keeps hurting? Why do some people move on more easily than others? How can we deal better with the endless chaos in the world?

Join us for a workshop on healing from loss, grief and heartbreak.
This is a not-for-profit event. No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Advance registration is required for this event. Please visit for more information.

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